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Jared!
Why are you upset, honey?
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I want my jersey.
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Well, it's because it's dirty.
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I want it.
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You know, today is your
first day at school.
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What?
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You like to play
something in particular?
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Uh, soccer.
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You like to play soccer.
And?
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And basketball!
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What's your favorite color?
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Uh...
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Uh, blue and yellow.
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- Blue...
- And yellow.
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And yellow.
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What would you like to be
when you grow up?
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Motorcycle driver!
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Bye! Hi!
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Jared. You should
come down for breakfast.
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I wish none of this
had ever happened.
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But sometimes,
I thank God that it did.
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Please, repeat after me.
Let your light shine.
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Let your light shine.
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Now, let me see
a show of hands
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for those of you in this room
who are imperfect.
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Everybody.
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That's right.
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And a show of hands for everybody
in this room who is perfect.
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- Nobody.
- Amen.
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I am blessed with a
beautiful and deeply soulful wife.
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And with a fine, upstanding,
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and honest son.
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I'm a lucky man.
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And I'm grateful
for those blessings.
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Please don't do that.
You know that makes me nervous.
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What if a truck comes along
and hits your arm?
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- It's never gonna happen.
- It's happened before.
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It has. It has.
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Good morning.
Welcome to Love in Action.
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Hi.
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Name?
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Uh, Nancy Eamons.
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Oh, um, the boy, I mean.
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- Unless you're the one checking in.
- Jared Eamons.
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Got you right here.
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Great. Do you want
to say your goodbyes?
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Can I see the place?
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I'm afraid you won't be allowed beyond
the reception area, Mrs. Eamons,
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- but you can pick him up at 5:00 p.m.
- Oh.
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Okay.
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It's okay, Mom.
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Well, call me any time.
I'll be at the hotel on my cell phone.
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Uh, we will be
holding his cell phone.
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If there are any emergencies,
we will contact you.
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But otherwise, 5:00 p.m.
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You'll do great.
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Love you.
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Newbie. Eamons.
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Empty your pockets.
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Do you have any numbers or photos
we should be concerned about?
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We'll check it daily and call
any number at random,
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so you best be straight
with us on that.
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There's nothing. And, yeah,
call whatever numbers if you need to.
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"Sobriety.
No smoking, no alcohol or drugs."
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"Off hours. All clients to remain
within a safe zone area as designated."
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"Attire. Women's skirts
must extend below the knee
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"and bras are to be worn
at all times."
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What's that?
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- Oh, it's, um...
- I write stories.
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I'm studying in a college...
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No journaling. We're gonna
have to read that.
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"Confidentiality.
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"All matters discussed in
therapy are to remain private."
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"Restrooms.
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"Members must be supervised by
staff during restroom visits."
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- Your handbook.
- Oh, yeah.
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Good luck.
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Thank you.
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"No viewing of pornographic
material, no masturbation,
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"no physical contact
with any member at any time,
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"apart from the briefest
of handshakes."
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Michael for Aaron,
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how many clients
are we expecting today?
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Copy, Michael.
Hold, please.
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Uh, just one second, Jared.
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We should have 11 today.
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Well, we have more
in the lobby.
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It's okay.
We should get another five minutes.
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Copy.
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Jared, if you just want to go
find yourself a seat
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and then make yourself comfortable.
We'll get started soon.
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- Hi.
- Hi.
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Morning.
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Hi.
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"Sinful, salacious,
and extraneous materials.
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"All reading material
and films and television
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"are off limits
while inside the program."
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I am using sexual sin and homosexuality
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to fill a God-shaped void
in my life.
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I am using sexual sin
and homosexuality
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to fill a God-shaped void
in my life.
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But I am not broken,
and God loves me.
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But I am not broken,
and God loves me.
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Good.
That is very true.
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Now somebody tell me
what this is.
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A dollar.
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A dollar.
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Now, no matter how much
you crumple up a dollar bill,
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you can never
take away its value.
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Now even if
you were to rip it,
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which would represent
our being severed from Christ,
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well, guess what?
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You can always
tape it back together.
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Jesus puts us back together.
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And even though there is a scar,
our value does not change.
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- You are somebody.
- Sorry.
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You are worth something.
That's okay, Jon. Sit down.
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And that is a fact.
Don't spend it all at once, Phillip.
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Now, this may be the toughest,
but most rewarding
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12 days that many of you
will ever face.
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But we have just one task,
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to bring ourselves
back to God.
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To invite him back in.
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To understand how he
truly meant to create us
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before all those pieces
got torn away.
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Now, look, I know the road here
wasn't easy for many of you.
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But I promise a smoother ride
now that you're here.
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Because we are about to go on
an amazing journey together.
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So, who's ready?
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That was a question.
Who's ready? Say amen!
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Amen.
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Amen!
If you know you're worth a dollar, say amen!
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Amen!
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Welcome to the
Refuge program! Come on!
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That's right, great souls!
Great!
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Now, I'm gonna
tell you something
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that's gonna make you immediately
feel a little better.
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People tell you you can be born gay,
that's not true.
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You cannot be born a homosexual,
this is a lie.
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Now, I'm a counselor and a pastor,
but was I born that way?
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No.
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It's behavioral.
It's a choice.
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Cameron, you,
you, uh, play football? Yeah?
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- Yeah.
- Were you born that way?
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- No.
- No.
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Now, you chose to be
a football player, right?
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It's behavior.
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Now, if you...
If Cameron stops playing football,
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he no longer
is a football player.
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We gotta learn for ourselves
where behavior comes from
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so we can cut it out
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and then we can no longer
be labeled that way.
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Now, who can tell us
what a genogram is?
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Phillip.
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- Well, a genogram is like a family tree...
- Mmm.
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...only one that shows patterns
of family behavior as well.
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Sort of like
an illustrated one.
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Yes. Now, we are
going to draw our family tree
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and we're gonna list next to these
people their behavioral sin.
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So, they made us
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and they labeled us,
so we're gonna label them.
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Michael, can you read
the behavioral sins?
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We use the letters SSA or H
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to label same sex attraction
or homosexuality,
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D for drugs,
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a dollar sign for gambling,
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A, alcoholism,
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P, promiscuity,
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M, mental illness,
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capital A, lowercase B
for abortion,
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capital P, lowercase O
for pornography,
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and C or G,
criminal or gang affiliation.
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You're forgetting DV,
domestic violence.
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Capital D,
lowercase V, domestic violence.
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Okay.
Guys, let's dive right in.
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Let's grab some cards
and some markers.
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I want you to write them down
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and put the letters
next to their names.
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I know they're family,
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but I can guarantee that
one or some of these people
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are the reason
that you're at Love in Action.
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So, Jared, you must be
the preacher's son.
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You know or you don't know.
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What's the question mark for?
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Uncle Chris is an alcoholic.
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Hmm.
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Well, this must be pretty
tough on your family, huh?
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Give ear,
O my people, to my law.
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Incline your ears
to the words of my mouth.
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I will open my mouth
in a parable.
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I will utter dark sayings
which we have heard.
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No.
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Sounds good, Dad.
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Are you ready?
We gotta get going.
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Why are we
going to Dallas tomorrow?
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Architect's updated the, uh,
remodel plans for the ministry.
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Now we're gonna take a tour of
two similar churches right there.
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Do you think I could stay at
Chloe's when you go instead?
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It's okay,
I can stay at Wayne's.
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- Or... Or, I'll just...
- I'm okay with that.
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In fact, I think
it is a great idea.
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You're both mature kids who
know how to conduct themselves
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and who by now know
how the world works.
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You know, son, small steps toward manhood.
That's the way to learn.
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That way you don't get all
panicky when it suddenly arrives.
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You do know
what I'm saying, Romeo?
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- Yes, sir.
- Okay.
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Let's go, we're late.
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Dear Heavenly Father,
we thank you for this beautiful day
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and, Lord, we pray that
you look over our shoulder
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as we march out onto the floor
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and that we show our customers the
love and kindness that you show us.
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In Jesus Christ's name
and for his sake...
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Morning!
Let your light shine!
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- Amen.
- Amen.
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- All right.
- Have a great day.
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Rebels on three.
One, two, three...
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Rebels!
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You did so good.
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Right, buddy? Assists, one of the most
underrated components of the game.
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- Congratulations.
- I saw you setting up all the points.
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- Oh, that's victory sweat.
- Dad, I'm...
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- Yeah!
- I played, like, five minutes.
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- Hey.
- I think you played more than that.
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How about you?
Another underrated component of the game.
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- Thank you. How are you?
- Congratulations, beautiful girl.
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I was worried about you.
I thought they were going to drop you.
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Oh, no,
don't worry.
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You kids going
to go celebrate?
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Yeah, some of us,
I think we're gonna go to the lake.
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All right. The lake.
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All right. Dealership's going to put
me in an Expedition, so it's yours.
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Wow.
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- Dad!
- All right.
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It's gonna be
for your birthday,
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but tonight's a good night,
so congratulations.
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- Thank you so much. Thank you.
- Go and have fun.
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I want to see if your mama
wants to go to the lake.
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They're still up.
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What?
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If it's not hard,
I can make it hard.
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Don't you think we should wait until,
you know...
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Until...
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- You know...
- Until what? We get married?
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That's what my parents think
we should do.
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To keep us together
through college.
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Hey.
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Is something wrong?
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No.
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Jared.
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Ready to pack it up?
We're about done for the day. Looks nice.
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5:00, everyone!
It's home time.
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- Bye.
- 5:00, let's go!
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All right, everybody,
pack it up.
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Name tag.
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- Thanks.
- 9:00 a.m. tomorrow.
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Uh...
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Hey,
you tore out the pages.
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- Mmm.
- They're just stories.
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Mr. Sykes will decide that.
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For Michael.
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Go for Michael.
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Are you still in the office?
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Are you... Are you a soldier?
Were you in the military or something?
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- I saw you salute earlier.
- No.
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- I'm trying zero contact whatsoever.
- Mmm.
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Twenty-three days now.
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So, I salute instead.
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This group seems good.
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Have you been here before?
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Yeah, it's my second time
in the Refuge program.
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I started a couple days late
last time.
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And actually, I'm waiting for a
place to open in one of the houses.
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- What houses?
- The houses.
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They have a few houses behind the
property for the long stayers.
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Meanwhile, I'm stuck
at the Baybrook with my dad,
00:19:19.867 --> 00:19:21.529
which is interesting.
00:19:24.705 --> 00:19:28.415
- Are you in one of the local hotels, too?
- Yeah.
00:19:31.170 --> 00:19:33.378
So, like, how long
will you stay for?
00:19:36.133 --> 00:19:39.752
It's not really up to me.
Mr. Sykes decides.
00:19:40.805 --> 00:19:43.718
- No one explained that to you?
- No, no.
00:19:44.934 --> 00:19:49.269
This is just an assessment program,
until they know what to do with you.
00:19:50.314 --> 00:19:53.807
Hey, listen.
Just lean into it, man.
00:19:55.069 --> 00:19:56.105
Yeah.
00:19:56.195 --> 00:19:58.733
Do the work
and trust me, man,
00:20:00.116 --> 00:20:01.357
you're gonna love it here.
00:20:02.827 --> 00:20:04.739
Aren't you gonna
tell me about your day?
00:20:05.413 --> 00:20:07.746
We're not meant to talk
about it outside of group.
00:20:08.457 --> 00:20:12.326
I don't need gossip, I just...
I just mean generally.
00:20:13.838 --> 00:20:15.295
I'm gonna lean into it
00:20:16.006 --> 00:20:17.497
and there are
some good people.
00:20:17.591 --> 00:20:18.752
And, yeah, I like it.
00:20:19.552 --> 00:20:23.091
- I'm excited to be here.
- That's good!
00:20:31.063 --> 00:20:35.649
Do we have people in the family who
had issues with any of this stuff?
00:20:47.663 --> 00:20:50.076
- Pornography?
- Mom...
00:20:56.464 --> 00:20:59.332
Drugs? Gang affiliation.
00:20:59.425 --> 00:21:01.542
Gang affiliations?
What is this?
00:21:01.761 --> 00:21:03.218
I need to know for homework.
00:21:03.888 --> 00:21:05.880
Why do they need to know
about the family?
00:21:06.682 --> 00:21:08.594
Our family is so normal.
00:21:36.670 --> 00:21:38.627
Big day tomorrow, hmm?
00:21:39.840 --> 00:21:41.376
You get some good sleep, now.
00:21:45.971 --> 00:21:48.884
Oh, um, I filled out
your homework for you.
00:21:53.187 --> 00:21:57.101
I was only in a gang for a year or
so until I went down for drugs.
00:21:58.025 --> 00:21:59.357
Got sent to prison.
00:22:00.820 --> 00:22:01.856
Haha!
00:22:08.786 --> 00:22:10.527
I put your Uncle Vincent
down there.
00:22:11.497 --> 00:22:15.241
You've never met him because he moved to
Louisiana when you were little, so...
00:22:16.210 --> 00:22:17.701
We just never see him.
00:22:18.879 --> 00:22:20.541
We always figured that he...
00:22:27.388 --> 00:22:29.755
He was very feminine-like,
you might say.
00:22:32.893 --> 00:22:35.510
All right. Oh, I'm tired.
00:22:37.898 --> 00:22:39.890
- Night night.
- Good night.
00:22:48.200 --> 00:22:50.863
What is a real man?
00:22:52.580 --> 00:22:54.537
What does
a real man look like?
00:22:55.583 --> 00:22:56.869
Does anybody know?
00:22:58.627 --> 00:23:01.791
Guys, uncross your legs.
Posture, come on.
00:23:02.298 --> 00:23:06.133
Now, perhaps being close
to the flames of hell
00:23:07.094 --> 00:23:11.134
and finding your way back
shows a great strength.
00:23:12.057 --> 00:23:13.673
And if that were so, then,
00:23:14.393 --> 00:23:17.431
if this isn't a real man,
then I don't know what is.
00:23:17.605 --> 00:23:20.097
This is Brandon Ellis, guys.
I want you to say hello.
00:23:20.190 --> 00:23:21.668
- Thanks, Sykes.
- Make him welcome.
00:23:21.692 --> 00:23:22.692
Over to you, Brandon.
00:23:25.821 --> 00:23:27.904
God bless, God bless.
00:23:28.532 --> 00:23:31.616
A real man to me is a man
of God first and foremost
00:23:32.995 --> 00:23:34.531
and I'm a man of God,
no doubt.
00:23:35.372 --> 00:23:36.988
I guess that counts me in.
00:23:38.584 --> 00:23:39.700
But I wasn't once.
00:23:41.170 --> 00:23:43.878
If I was ever listed
on my own son's genograms,
00:23:44.173 --> 00:23:47.211
there'd be so many of these letters
next to my name it would look like
00:23:47.843 --> 00:23:51.257
qualifications for some fancy university.
00:23:51.347 --> 00:23:54.431
Drugs, violence,
gang crime, prison time,
00:23:54.600 --> 00:23:57.092
but I actually believe
I'm qualified to be here.
00:23:57.811 --> 00:24:00.929
Not because I've ever had the
types of thoughts and feelings
00:24:01.023 --> 00:24:02.309
that y'all are wrestling with,
00:24:02.441 --> 00:24:05.149
or that your other guidance
counselors have overcome righteously.
00:24:06.153 --> 00:24:10.568
But I've had all sorts of my own trials
that took me so far away from the Lord
00:24:11.075 --> 00:24:15.115
that it's a true miracle that I'm
standing here before you today.
00:24:16.747 --> 00:24:19.660
But I am. I am.
00:24:25.297 --> 00:24:28.415
Standing, leaning, sitting.
00:24:29.009 --> 00:24:30.500
All the same idea.
00:24:30.970 --> 00:24:33.758
Triangles are
the strongest shape.
00:24:33.973 --> 00:24:36.056
Remember, hands on hips. Go!
00:24:37.393 --> 00:24:38.634
Save yourself.
00:24:42.356 --> 00:24:45.565
Fingers forward, not back.
Just the way it is.
00:24:45.985 --> 00:24:48.819
Think of the shapes you're
making and ask yourself,
00:24:49.905 --> 00:24:54.400
"Is this a manly shape I'm making or
is it a girly or feminine shape?"
00:24:55.703 --> 00:24:56.819
Sarah, come on up here.
00:24:58.163 --> 00:24:59.825
Come on,
you delicate flower, you.
00:25:00.958 --> 00:25:01.958
Okay.
00:25:02.167 --> 00:25:05.786
I want you to arrange
these guys into a line
00:25:05.879 --> 00:25:07.916
in terms of masculinity,
if you will.
00:25:09.800 --> 00:25:11.336
Go on, you can do it.
00:25:12.594 --> 00:25:13.801
Follow your instincts.
00:25:16.724 --> 00:25:21.014
Myself and other addicts and
alcoholics put our faith in AA.
00:25:21.603 --> 00:25:25.938
Get familiar with this phrase,
"Fake it till you make it."
00:25:26.984 --> 00:25:29.772
Y'all folks and kids being
what you're afflicted with,
00:25:30.404 --> 00:25:31.940
you gotta learn
how to survive.
00:25:33.323 --> 00:25:34.689
When you're in prison,
00:25:34.783 --> 00:25:37.150
you'd surprise yourself
what you can do to fit in.
00:25:37.244 --> 00:25:40.282
Come on, Phillip.
Eye on the ball.
00:25:40.622 --> 00:25:42.784
Come on! Okay, next.
00:25:42.875 --> 00:25:45.834
Fake it till you make it.
Become the man you are not.
00:25:45.919 --> 00:25:49.037
So, you think Cameron here is the big winner,
huh?
00:25:50.382 --> 00:25:52.715
You think being big and tall
00:25:52.801 --> 00:25:55.794
and overeating immediately puts
a guy at the front of the line.
00:25:56.555 --> 00:26:00.139
But it's more than triangles
and postures and genetics.
00:26:01.143 --> 00:26:03.351
A firm handshake...
Let's go! Do it!
00:26:04.938 --> 00:26:06.145
Gotta pick up the bat.
00:26:07.316 --> 00:26:08.648
Hold the bat up!
00:26:10.277 --> 00:26:11.393
Get back up on that horse!
00:26:12.237 --> 00:26:13.773
All right, just get him
out of there.
00:26:16.408 --> 00:26:17.944
Lee, you're gonna be okay.
00:26:19.244 --> 00:26:20.485
Jared, you're up next.
00:26:22.331 --> 00:26:23.367
Good.
00:26:28.712 --> 00:26:31.671
Military man.
God bless, son.
00:26:31.924 --> 00:26:36.009
Who you are on the inside can
be affected by the outside.
00:26:36.303 --> 00:26:41.014
Outside in, fake it till you make it,
adapt to survive.
00:26:41.100 --> 00:26:44.684
See, that's a batting stance.
That's what I'm talking about.
00:26:45.646 --> 00:26:47.057
Boom!
00:26:58.367 --> 00:27:04.034
Lesbian, gay, bisexual,
transsexual, whatever that is,
00:27:04.123 --> 00:27:08.288
multisexual, intellectual-sexual,
I mean, what else do you want?
00:27:08.418 --> 00:27:13.083
Unicorns? Squirrels? Cupcakes? I mean, rainbows?
00:27:13.173 --> 00:27:16.837
There's so much choice
in this group.
00:27:16.927 --> 00:27:22.218
But, hey, think about this.
What are the consequences to those choices?
00:27:24.643 --> 00:27:27.886
Have a look at this.
Rape, abuse, AIDS.
00:27:29.231 --> 00:27:31.769
What sinful things
have y'all done?
00:27:36.613 --> 00:27:38.195
Moral inventory.
00:27:39.408 --> 00:27:43.277
Catalogue your sins
and ask God's forgiveness.
00:27:46.623 --> 00:27:47.739
Who's ready?
00:27:51.795 --> 00:27:52.831
Sarah!
00:28:06.685 --> 00:28:09.849
"I would look at other girls
in the changing rooms before gym
00:28:10.898 --> 00:28:11.979
"and in the showers.
00:28:12.983 --> 00:28:15.691
"My biggest sin is one
that I am also thankful for
00:28:15.777 --> 00:28:17.769
"because it has led me
to Love in Action."
00:28:19.615 --> 00:28:21.356
Doing well, Sarah.
Carry on.
00:28:25.579 --> 00:28:27.241
"I had run away
from my uncle's house
00:28:28.248 --> 00:28:31.787
"and stayed with some girls I
knew whose parents were away.
00:28:32.961 --> 00:28:36.375
"It was there that I finally
acted on my homosexual thoughts."
00:28:39.718 --> 00:28:40.799
Come on, Sarah.
00:28:42.054 --> 00:28:43.386
"I let a girl touch my...
00:28:44.514 --> 00:28:45.630
"Kiss my...
00:28:46.475 --> 00:28:48.432
"My vagina."
00:28:50.771 --> 00:28:52.353
Nobody's judging, come on.
00:28:52.940 --> 00:28:57.059
"And put her fingers
inside me and I did the same.
00:28:58.820 --> 00:29:01.654
"I renounce these
sinful thoughts and actions
00:29:01.740 --> 00:29:04.153
"and ask God to forgive me
all these things."
00:29:06.745 --> 00:29:07.781
Very good.
00:29:09.122 --> 00:29:10.329
We love you, Sarah.
00:29:10.666 --> 00:29:13.329
Repeat after me.
We love you, Sarah.
00:29:14.002 --> 00:29:16.039
- We love you, Sarah.
- Very good.
00:29:36.984 --> 00:29:39.317
- Do you want some water?
- I'm fine, thanks.
00:29:41.488 --> 00:29:44.731
- Can I get you anything else?
- I'm... I'm fine, thank you.
00:29:45.784 --> 00:29:48.822
How dare you
humiliate a child like that!
00:29:50.038 --> 00:29:51.950
Is that what you guys do?
You like that?
00:29:52.040 --> 00:29:55.249
You like doing that?
You like humiliating and abusing children?
00:29:55.961 --> 00:29:58.328
- It's not easy.
- What do you mean it's not easy?
00:29:58.422 --> 00:29:59.983
- Lee's parents.
- His parents are here.
00:30:00.007 --> 00:30:01.276
Listen to yourself.
00:30:01.300 --> 00:30:04.043
With respect,
we are not running a holiday camp here.
00:30:04.136 --> 00:30:06.879
We paid you $3,000.
I should report you.
00:30:07.014 --> 00:30:09.784
- You could have given him a concussion.
- David, let's go.
00:30:09.808 --> 00:30:11.674
But this
change doesn't come easy.
00:30:12.227 --> 00:30:13.468
Unbelievable!
00:30:27.617 --> 00:30:30.325
Do you all find the reason
y'all are here is funny?
00:30:31.038 --> 00:30:32.404
Look at y'all!
00:30:33.165 --> 00:30:34.326
People!
00:30:35.083 --> 00:30:36.619
I'm trying to help you.
00:30:36.710 --> 00:30:38.872
So, do not waste my time.
00:30:38.962 --> 00:30:42.330
Nobody is to discuss the
therapy outside these walls.
00:30:42.424 --> 00:30:43.756
Do I make myself clear?
00:31:36.186 --> 00:31:37.643
Here.
I got you, pal.
00:31:38.146 --> 00:31:39.762
- Oh, sorry, sorry.
- I got that.
00:31:39.898 --> 00:31:41.014
Thank you so much.
00:31:41.274 --> 00:31:43.482
Which, uh...
Which room you in?
00:31:43.777 --> 00:31:45.564
I'm in, uh, 317.
00:31:46.154 --> 00:31:49.113
I'm in 237. You run?
00:31:49.408 --> 00:31:50.569
- Yeah.
- I figure.
00:31:50.659 --> 00:31:53.197
- People who run know about Asics, right?
- Oh, yeah.
00:31:54.162 --> 00:31:55.198
Here. This is me.
00:32:05.507 --> 00:32:07.373
First one in gets to choose.
00:32:12.264 --> 00:32:13.380
You got a girl?
00:32:14.141 --> 00:32:17.760
If so, you might want to think about
applying for a room without bunks.
00:32:18.186 --> 00:32:19.302
Just broke up.
00:32:20.105 --> 00:32:21.105
Oh.
00:32:21.314 --> 00:32:24.648
That's perfect timing
for college.
00:32:26.319 --> 00:32:28.185
We're a good fit.
00:32:28.280 --> 00:32:29.816
Hate running with slowpokes.
00:32:30.657 --> 00:32:32.694
I tell you what,
I race you on the way back.
00:32:33.410 --> 00:32:35.743
Last one back has to go
to the other one's church.
00:32:35.912 --> 00:32:37.699
Why?
What kind of church is it?
00:32:38.373 --> 00:32:39.489
You game or not?
00:32:40.000 --> 00:32:41.000
Okay.
00:32:41.543 --> 00:32:44.160
- One, two, three, go!
- Two, three, go!
00:33:09.070 --> 00:33:11.027
- Jared.
- Hey, man. Nice to meet you.
00:33:57.786 --> 00:33:59.994
You say your roommate's
not back till tomorrow?
00:34:00.497 --> 00:34:02.033
He's on some golf trip.
00:34:06.586 --> 00:34:07.827
Do you want to crash?
00:34:10.757 --> 00:34:12.043
Uh, maybe.
00:34:31.820 --> 00:34:32.820
Good night.
00:34:33.947 --> 00:34:34.947
Good night.
00:35:26.708 --> 00:35:27.994
Can't sleep, huh?
00:35:43.308 --> 00:35:45.345
Probably shouldn't run
so late at night.
00:36:04.829 --> 00:36:05.865
You okay?
00:36:08.583 --> 00:36:09.699
Yeah.
00:36:12.379 --> 00:36:13.540
Yeah, just...
00:37:01.136 --> 00:37:02.468
It's okay.
00:37:07.726 --> 00:37:08.726
It's okay.
00:37:27.412 --> 00:37:30.576
Hey, it's okay. It's okay.
00:37:31.833 --> 00:37:32.869
Wait, wait.
00:37:35.044 --> 00:37:36.660
No.
00:37:41.885 --> 00:37:43.525
Stop, stop, stop,
stop, stop, stop!
00:37:56.274 --> 00:37:57.310
Ow!
00:38:13.917 --> 00:38:15.728
Come on,
keep it down in there.
00:38:47.367 --> 00:38:49.487
What
the hell is wrong with me?
00:38:51.162 --> 00:38:52.448
I'm so sorry.
00:38:58.127 --> 00:39:00.119
I'm going to be
in so much trouble.
00:39:06.427 --> 00:39:07.838
I need to confess.
00:39:15.270 --> 00:39:17.262
I need to confess.
Will you hear me?
00:39:20.483 --> 00:39:21.940
- Please.
- Uh-huh.
00:39:29.075 --> 00:39:30.941
Do you remember the kid
from church?
00:39:34.539 --> 00:39:35.871
The one in front of us.
00:39:40.169 --> 00:39:42.331
Something happened
with me and him.
00:39:44.090 --> 00:39:45.581
Something pretty bad.
00:39:52.307 --> 00:39:54.469
You wouldn't dare
tell anyone, would you?
00:39:56.644 --> 00:39:57.644
Please.
00:40:00.398 --> 00:40:01.764
Keep it between us.
00:40:26.174 --> 00:40:28.837
Start with Chapter 6, please.
00:41:31.197 --> 00:41:33.439
What a surprise.
00:41:33.741 --> 00:41:34.857
Oh!
00:41:54.053 --> 00:41:56.386
- Hello.
- Is this Mrs. Nancy Eamons?
00:41:56.472 --> 00:41:57.588
This is she.
00:41:57.682 --> 00:41:59.423
I'm a counselor
at Danning College.
00:42:00.351 --> 00:42:04.470
I'm afraid I have some disturbing news
about your son's behavior at school.
00:42:04.564 --> 00:42:05.564
What?
00:42:05.898 --> 00:42:07.230
What about him?
00:42:08.359 --> 00:42:10.087
- Did he give you a name?
- I need you to answer my question.
00:42:10.111 --> 00:42:11.880
- If he gave you a name...
- Please, Jared, just answer.
00:42:11.904 --> 00:42:12.965
I'm just saying.
Why wouldn't he...
00:42:12.989 --> 00:42:14.091
Have you been doing
the things he said?
00:42:14.115 --> 00:42:15.968
- Why wouldn't he give you a name?
- Come on, son, enough.
00:42:15.992 --> 00:42:16.992
Tell me the truth.
00:42:17.076 --> 00:42:20.695
- I'm asking questions, too.
- He didn't give me a name. I don't...
00:42:20.788 --> 00:42:21.849
The guy's full of shit.
00:42:21.873 --> 00:42:23.392
- He's telling a bunch of lies.
- Now, you will not talk like that
00:42:23.416 --> 00:42:24.601
in this house
in front of your mother.
00:42:24.625 --> 00:42:25.706
You just watch your mouth.
00:42:25.793 --> 00:42:28.376
Nancy, if... If you could just
give us a moment, you know,
00:42:28.504 --> 00:42:29.565
- just to...
- I'm... I'm leaving...
00:42:29.589 --> 00:42:30.983
Sit down.
You will not leave the room.
00:42:31.007 --> 00:42:32.293
You will sit down, boy.
00:42:32.884 --> 00:42:35.124
- You will sit down.
- It's bullshit, Dad. It's bullshit.
00:42:35.178 --> 00:42:36.965
I just asked you
to watch your mouth.
00:42:40.099 --> 00:42:42.887
I think, um,
he said he was a counselor,
00:42:42.977 --> 00:42:45.060
and then...
And I asked for his name
00:42:45.146 --> 00:42:46.557
- and then I asked for...
- Nancy.
00:42:46.647 --> 00:42:48.125
- You see?
- His number and he didn't...
00:42:48.149 --> 00:42:49.230
Nancy, please.
00:42:49.567 --> 00:42:50.683
Dad, I...
00:42:51.402 --> 00:42:52.984
He's made all of this up.
00:42:54.363 --> 00:42:55.649
Let's just sit here.
00:42:55.782 --> 00:42:58.262
- We're just going to talk calmly.
- All right. All right.
00:42:59.827 --> 00:43:01.989
- No, Dad.
- Jared.
00:43:06.501 --> 00:43:08.743
I just need you to tell me
the truth, that's all.
00:43:09.420 --> 00:43:13.255
What this man says
of you, Jared.
00:43:14.967 --> 00:43:16.253
Are you a homosexual?
00:43:20.515 --> 00:43:21.515
Jared.
00:43:22.642 --> 00:43:23.883
We are not finished.
00:43:24.018 --> 00:43:27.011
- I am, because you won't listen.
- Honey. Honey.
00:43:27.522 --> 00:43:30.084
- What this man says, is it true?
- What, this full-of-shit guy...
00:43:30.108 --> 00:43:31.708
- Answer me.
- ...who is not a counselor,
00:43:31.818 --> 00:43:34.310
who raped a kid
at his own church
00:43:35.613 --> 00:43:36.945
and God knows who else.
00:43:37.865 --> 00:43:39.322
Dad, you're hurting me.
00:43:39.700 --> 00:43:41.657
- Marshall.
- His name is Henry Wallace.
00:43:41.828 --> 00:43:44.161
He's... He's not a counselor,
he's a student.
00:43:44.247 --> 00:43:45.579
- All right.
- And... And...
00:43:46.666 --> 00:43:47.998
He told me
he did some bad things.
00:43:48.084 --> 00:43:50.076
I think he thinks
I'm going to tell on him.
00:43:51.671 --> 00:43:52.752
Honey.
00:43:54.507 --> 00:43:55.543
Son.
00:44:08.104 --> 00:44:09.104
Fight!
00:44:19.157 --> 00:44:20.443
Go to war!
00:44:32.295 --> 00:44:33.831
Your mother's making dinner.
00:44:36.257 --> 00:44:37.714
I'm okay. I'm not hungry.
00:44:43.764 --> 00:44:46.427
I want you to write down
this man's name,
00:44:47.185 --> 00:44:51.520
his church, phone number if you have it.
Any information at all.
00:44:52.607 --> 00:44:55.350
- I don't want you to talk to him.
- I ain't going to talk to him.
00:44:56.444 --> 00:44:59.482
If he's been doing what you say,
then he needs to be reported.
00:45:03.409 --> 00:45:04.409
Okay.
00:45:05.953 --> 00:45:09.663
Now, you know what I did? I invited Chloe
and her parents for lunch tomorrow.
00:45:09.790 --> 00:45:11.830
I was thinking it would be fun
if you could join in.
00:45:12.668 --> 00:45:15.411
Missing one more day of class
ain't gonna end the world.
00:45:16.631 --> 00:45:18.247
You know, Jared...
00:45:19.508 --> 00:45:21.170
...as far as I can tell,
00:45:22.345 --> 00:45:24.587
we've only got
one God-given right.
00:45:25.389 --> 00:45:28.723
And that is when a man
and a woman come together.
00:45:28.809 --> 00:45:31.677
They may create life.
00:45:32.563 --> 00:45:35.727
You think how much
God must love mankind
00:45:35.858 --> 00:45:38.475
- to give us that awesome responsibility.
- Dad.
00:45:39.820 --> 00:45:41.982
It's really not true.
00:45:48.788 --> 00:45:51.451
You know what I think about
these type of games, too.
00:45:53.084 --> 00:45:55.371
Be respectful to your mother
when she calls.
00:45:56.504 --> 00:45:57.585
You come down and eat.
00:46:32.581 --> 00:46:33.581
Honey.
00:46:33.874 --> 00:46:37.083
All right.
You want me to stop with the games?
00:46:37.420 --> 00:46:38.420
I'll stop with them.
00:46:38.963 --> 00:46:40.454
I broke up with Chloe
00:46:41.465 --> 00:46:42.751
because...
00:46:48.764 --> 00:46:51.006
We broke up
because I think it's true
00:46:52.101 --> 00:46:53.262
about me.
00:46:55.813 --> 00:46:57.145
God help me.
00:46:59.650 --> 00:47:01.107
I think about men.
00:47:15.041 --> 00:47:16.577
I don't know why.
00:47:19.170 --> 00:47:20.411
I'm so sorry.
00:48:13.265 --> 00:48:14.676
God bless you, pastor.
00:48:19.605 --> 00:48:21.541
- Are you okay?
- I've had better days,
00:48:21.565 --> 00:48:22.772
I can tell you that.
00:48:32.368 --> 00:48:34.576
- Just a minute. Just a minute.
- Mom?
00:48:34.662 --> 00:48:37.120
Hold on.
All right.
00:48:43.963 --> 00:48:46.125
Why are Pastor Wilkes
and Jim Picard here?
00:48:46.966 --> 00:48:49.629
Pastor Wilkes has dealt with
this kind of thing before.
00:48:52.555 --> 00:48:55.047
Jim has a son, Eddie,
who, um...
00:48:55.141 --> 00:48:57.098
You were a little boy,
but...
00:48:58.394 --> 00:48:59.475
Anyway.
00:49:00.396 --> 00:49:02.388
- What did they do to him?
- Oh, no.
00:49:02.815 --> 00:49:04.852
You silly thing.
00:49:04.942 --> 00:49:06.899
They didn't do
anything to him.
00:49:07.069 --> 00:49:08.935
They did things for him,
00:49:09.864 --> 00:49:10.864
all right?
00:49:12.366 --> 00:49:14.733
Just like they're gonna do
things for you.
00:49:15.119 --> 00:49:17.111
Your father's wondering...
00:49:18.330 --> 00:49:20.322
He's wondering how to help.
00:49:23.586 --> 00:49:24.793
Come here.
00:49:25.212 --> 00:49:26.953
It's all gonna be all right.
00:49:30.259 --> 00:49:32.125
We've got one question
for you, son,
00:49:33.053 --> 00:49:35.295
and we're gonna let you sleep.
It's been a big day.
00:49:37.933 --> 00:49:40.971
I have shared
our conversations
00:49:42.354 --> 00:49:45.973
with these two fine, upstanding men and
I have asked them for their guidance.
00:49:48.777 --> 00:49:51.941
I can tell you right now
we don't have all the answers.
00:49:52.364 --> 00:49:56.779
But I do know that you gonna
hold the key to the next step.
00:49:58.204 --> 00:50:01.117
Your mother and I,
we cannot see
00:50:01.916 --> 00:50:04.203
a way that you can live
under this roof,
00:50:04.752 --> 00:50:07.369
attend service and work
at the dealership
00:50:08.756 --> 00:50:11.965
if you're going to fundamentally go
against the grain of our beliefs
00:50:13.135 --> 00:50:14.797
and against God himself.
00:50:17.556 --> 00:50:19.513
I'm gonna ask you
that question now, son.
00:50:23.729 --> 00:50:25.311
In your heart,
00:50:28.692 --> 00:50:30.479
do you want to change?
00:50:51.298 --> 00:50:52.379
Yes.
00:50:53.759 --> 00:50:55.375
Yes, I want to change.
00:51:00.224 --> 00:51:01.681
Come a little closer, son.
00:51:02.393 --> 00:51:03.725
Pastor Wilkes,
00:51:04.937 --> 00:51:08.226
could you ask Jesus
to shine his light
00:51:09.233 --> 00:51:10.895
on my boy at this time?
00:51:13.070 --> 00:51:16.313
Heavenly Father, I ask your
blessing for this family.
00:51:16.407 --> 00:51:17.864
Give them strength.
00:51:18.659 --> 00:51:20.571
Unleash your power
00:51:21.453 --> 00:51:25.413
for one of your flock, Jared,
who has lost his way.
00:51:25.791 --> 00:51:28.875
We pray, Lord,
that you make him pure
00:51:29.628 --> 00:51:32.336
and that you return him
safely back to us
00:51:32.423 --> 00:51:38.044
and see that the errors of his way are
nothing more than a momentary straying.
00:51:39.305 --> 00:51:42.343
We pray that
he see the path of faith
00:51:42.683 --> 00:51:45.892
and that he strive
to be honest
00:51:46.270 --> 00:51:49.229
and that he then find the joy
of a new life.
00:51:50.065 --> 00:51:51.806
In His name we pray.
00:51:52.359 --> 00:51:53.566
Amen.
00:51:54.153 --> 00:51:55.189
Jared.
00:52:01.035 --> 00:52:02.867
How's college treating ya?
00:52:03.454 --> 00:52:06.288
Uh, it's going good.
Yeah. It's good.
00:52:06.790 --> 00:52:09.908
Your father's asked me
to take some of your blood.
00:52:13.505 --> 00:52:15.167
He wants me to...
00:52:15.591 --> 00:52:17.958
To check for
testosterone levels.
00:52:21.597 --> 00:52:25.932
I'm in a bit of a bind here, Jared, and I...
I said this to your mother, too.
00:52:26.018 --> 00:52:30.228
Now, I am a religious woman, there's...
There's no... No question,
00:52:30.314 --> 00:52:32.556
but I have also been
to medical school,
00:52:33.567 --> 00:52:37.937
and, well, you can say that
I hold science in one hand
00:52:38.030 --> 00:52:41.865
and God in the other, and that
is not always an easy balance.
00:52:43.118 --> 00:52:46.782
And I know that everybody would
like for me to say otherwise
00:52:46.872 --> 00:52:49.706
and send you down
to the pharmacy for a...
00:52:49.792 --> 00:52:53.877
A pill that would magically fix you,
but that's not gonna happen.
00:52:54.338 --> 00:52:56.204
But I'm gonna take your blood
and I know...
00:52:56.298 --> 00:52:57.880
I know
what it's gonna show me.
00:52:58.509 --> 00:53:02.844
That you are a perfectly normal,
very healthy teenage boy.
00:53:05.057 --> 00:53:09.392
Jared, it's not my place to tell
you that your parents are wrong,
00:53:09.770 --> 00:53:12.433
but let's say
that they are wrong.
00:53:13.107 --> 00:53:16.851
I understand your father signed
you up for a program next month.
00:53:19.029 --> 00:53:23.615
Whatever happens next,
it is still your choice.
00:53:24.743 --> 00:53:26.951
It may not feel that way,
but it is.
00:53:28.330 --> 00:53:29.616
You're 18.
00:53:32.626 --> 00:53:36.996
Do you have anything that you'd...
You'd like to say to me?
00:53:38.382 --> 00:53:41.125
Any... Any questions?
00:53:45.139 --> 00:53:46.255
No.
00:53:51.019 --> 00:53:52.180
Jared?
00:53:53.939 --> 00:53:55.055
Morning.
00:54:05.868 --> 00:54:10.078
So, I wanted to talk to you
about these.
00:54:11.582 --> 00:54:13.448
Uh, your writing.
00:54:15.169 --> 00:54:21.416
This "Remy and Lucy met at midnight
under the stars on Willow Street."
00:54:23.302 --> 00:54:25.339
What...
Tell me about these.
00:54:27.514 --> 00:54:29.927
It's... It's just...
It's a story.
00:54:32.186 --> 00:54:35.429
It's a love story about a boy
and a girl, correct?
00:54:35.564 --> 00:54:37.271
- Yeah.
- But were you thinking
00:54:37.357 --> 00:54:40.475
about two boys
when you wrote this?
00:54:42.362 --> 00:54:44.228
- No.
- Be honest.
00:54:44.823 --> 00:54:47.031
No, it's just a story.
00:54:48.118 --> 00:54:50.360
It's just an assignment
for college.
00:54:53.040 --> 00:54:55.999
Jared, I've seen your reading
list for college. I have it here,
00:54:56.084 --> 00:54:59.373
and listen, The Picture
of Dorian Gray, Lolita,
00:55:00.255 --> 00:55:02.121
I mean, some of these...
These books, Jared,
00:55:02.216 --> 00:55:04.277
considering everything that's
going on for you right now,
00:55:04.301 --> 00:55:06.112
I don't know that college
is really the best thing
00:55:06.136 --> 00:55:07.752
for you to be
pursuing at all.
00:55:09.473 --> 00:55:13.717
A year with us may be a much,
much better use of your time,
00:55:15.979 --> 00:55:17.686
given everything that I see,
00:55:19.858 --> 00:55:21.645
and everything
that's at stake.
00:55:24.363 --> 00:55:26.650
And I'm willing to say that
to your parents.
00:55:29.243 --> 00:55:31.326
Listen, I've had
many wonderful conversations
00:55:31.411 --> 00:55:32.902
with your parents.
Lovely people.
00:55:32.996 --> 00:55:35.454
So, I know some of your story.
00:55:35.916 --> 00:55:39.535
And I know that there is
quite a discrepancy
00:55:39.628 --> 00:55:43.087
between what they were told
and what you said.
00:55:44.550 --> 00:55:49.045
And you gotta understand that
they don't know what to believe,
00:55:49.137 --> 00:55:51.254
and that's very troubling
for them.
00:55:53.350 --> 00:55:55.057
But I think that
you and I know
00:55:55.143 --> 00:55:57.556
that there is a whole
lot more to the story,
00:55:58.105 --> 00:56:02.349
and, you know, we're not here
on mere thoughts alone.
00:56:06.738 --> 00:56:09.446
Jared, the... The people that
get the most out of this place
00:56:09.533 --> 00:56:13.994
are the people that are just
really brave and honest
00:56:14.079 --> 00:56:17.322
and lay everything on the table,
ugly as it seems,
00:56:17.416 --> 00:56:20.159
and fess up to
what God already sees.
00:56:22.880 --> 00:56:27.875
And then, I can really truly assess
what is the best future for you.
00:56:31.096 --> 00:56:32.462
Okay, son?
00:56:35.684 --> 00:56:37.767
Yeah. Yeah.
00:56:41.982 --> 00:56:46.101
Dear Heavenly Father,
today I ask your forgiveness for my sins.
00:56:47.613 --> 00:56:51.277
For a year, we lived together under
the cover of being roommates.
00:56:51.825 --> 00:56:56.536
But in reality, the whole time I
was committing the sin of sodomy.
00:56:57.623 --> 00:57:00.957
And then my family discovered the truth
and brought me back to my senses.
00:57:01.376 --> 00:57:03.789
They helped me realize
that I was fooling myself.
00:57:05.380 --> 00:57:07.121
That I was being fooled.
00:57:08.383 --> 00:57:12.047
That I was seduced into a life of
sin by all sorts of sinful people.
00:57:13.347 --> 00:57:16.340
And I knew in my heart that I
had forsaken Jesus for Satan.
00:57:17.017 --> 00:57:18.017
But now,
00:57:21.939 --> 00:57:23.646
I am awake to my sins.
00:57:24.274 --> 00:57:25.731
I'm enlightened,
00:57:26.151 --> 00:57:27.642
I'm here with all of you
00:57:27.945 --> 00:57:31.689
and I'm disgusted at the
person that I once was.
00:57:34.368 --> 00:57:36.451
I want to ask God
for his forgiveness,
00:57:38.288 --> 00:57:40.575
and I want to thank
all of you guys,
00:57:41.041 --> 00:57:42.532
especially you, Mr. Sykes,
00:57:43.210 --> 00:57:45.793
for helping me get back
on the path to righteousness.
00:57:45.963 --> 00:57:47.499
We love you, Gary.
00:57:48.298 --> 00:57:49.914
We love you, Gary.
00:58:05.565 --> 00:58:07.477
Please don't do that, honey.
You know I...
00:58:07.609 --> 00:58:10.022
Mom, who did that happen to
and when?
00:58:10.153 --> 00:58:12.019
Seriously. Do you know?
00:58:12.114 --> 00:58:13.980
Do you actually know
who that happened to?
00:58:17.703 --> 00:58:18.944
It never happened.
00:58:24.167 --> 00:58:25.908
Parents want
to protect their kids.
00:58:26.044 --> 00:58:29.162
- So they feed them lies.
- I think that they're okay lies.
00:58:29.256 --> 00:58:32.044
What? Like not telling me
how long I might be here for?
00:58:34.511 --> 00:58:37.299
You know the whole thing you
and Dad are paying for here
00:58:37.514 --> 00:58:40.257
is all about how messed up
we are by our parents.
00:58:40.642 --> 00:58:43.635
They want to know about you.
That's why you can't know all about it,
00:58:43.729 --> 00:58:45.849
because then they wouldn't get
their money out of you.
00:58:46.815 --> 00:58:49.057
What have I
ever done to you, hmm?
00:58:49.609 --> 00:58:52.317
Talk about me all you want.
My conscious is clean.
00:59:02.080 --> 00:59:03.446
Honey.
00:59:21.767 --> 00:59:23.759
I'm gonna go for a run.
Is that okay, Mom?
00:59:24.811 --> 00:59:25.811
Mmm-hmm.
01:00:22.077 --> 01:00:23.193
Fuck you!
01:00:26.581 --> 01:00:27.992
Fuck you!
01:00:36.675 --> 01:00:38.132
Fuck you!
01:00:42.180 --> 01:00:44.263
Please,
please give me strength.
01:00:44.349 --> 01:00:45.715
I need your help.
01:00:46.685 --> 01:00:47.685
Amen.
01:01:05.120 --> 01:01:07.737
I'm reading it.
No debate.
01:01:08.540 --> 01:01:10.532
I have a right to know
what they're teaching you.
01:01:11.334 --> 01:01:14.418
I don't see why anyone would read
it unless you absolutely had to.
01:01:15.213 --> 01:01:16.954
I need to know
what's inside.
01:01:17.966 --> 01:01:20.208
There are tons
of spelling errors in it.
01:01:20.969 --> 01:01:23.177
I almost want to
mark up a copy for them.
01:01:24.306 --> 01:01:26.889
But that would take away the
only real enjoyment you get
01:01:26.975 --> 01:01:29.592
from reading it,
because I guess it's
01:01:31.104 --> 01:01:33.221
actually not much fun
to be there.
01:01:36.818 --> 01:01:40.107
And I'm starting to wonder whether
it's really going to change me.
01:02:01.676 --> 01:02:05.966
"We always come back
to Dog's true design."
01:02:12.145 --> 01:02:13.636
Almighty Dog.
01:02:46.805 --> 01:02:49.172
Welcome to God
Versus Science...
01:02:54.396 --> 01:02:55.728
Thank you.
01:03:38.773 --> 01:03:40.264
Where are you from, Xavier?
01:03:41.484 --> 01:03:42.975
I was born in Vienna.
01:03:43.570 --> 01:03:46.984
I ended up in Canada,
and now I'm here.
01:03:56.416 --> 01:03:57.827
Do you believe in God?
01:03:59.044 --> 01:04:00.251
I do, yeah.
01:04:01.921 --> 01:04:02.921
Wow.
01:04:04.674 --> 01:04:08.213
I question it, but I still
believe in God, yeah.
01:04:15.268 --> 01:04:16.759
Who created the Earth?
01:04:19.147 --> 01:04:20.729
You like a little
small talk, huh?
01:04:22.525 --> 01:04:24.107
Do you believe
in the Devil?
01:04:29.199 --> 01:04:30.565
Did he look like me?
01:04:33.370 --> 01:04:34.702
I don't know.
01:04:51.262 --> 01:04:53.254
Do you know Job
from the Bible?
01:04:54.474 --> 01:04:55.840
Not personally.
01:04:56.434 --> 01:04:59.643
I hear he's not great company.
Always complaining.
01:05:04.109 --> 01:05:05.816
I imagine
I'm him sometimes.
01:05:06.694 --> 01:05:10.438
And that God and the Devil
are having a bet over me.
01:05:10.865 --> 01:05:13.152
That one day
God will let me in
01:05:13.243 --> 01:05:16.236
on the experiment
he was having to test me.
01:05:19.249 --> 01:05:21.912
I think we're our own God.
01:05:23.503 --> 01:05:25.369
I mean, I think he's in us.
01:05:26.965 --> 01:05:30.800
In all of us, not,
you know, somewhere
01:05:31.177 --> 01:05:33.510
hiding and watching.
01:05:45.024 --> 01:05:46.310
Stay with me.
01:05:48.111 --> 01:05:49.522
Nothing needs to happen.
01:05:51.239 --> 01:05:52.525
I swear.
01:05:55.952 --> 01:05:58.535
I'll prove to you
that God won't strike you down.
01:06:36.659 --> 01:06:38.241
You wronged me, Dad...
01:06:39.287 --> 01:06:41.324
- And I hate the way...
- Louder, Cameron.
01:06:41.623 --> 01:06:45.082
Can't hear you. Come on.
I'll bring him closer, there he is.
01:06:46.878 --> 01:06:50.417
You wronged me, Dad, and I hate you
for the way that you treated me
01:06:50.548 --> 01:06:52.164
since you found out
about my problems.
01:06:52.258 --> 01:06:53.794
No, about your sin.
01:06:54.260 --> 01:06:55.751
Say that.
01:06:55.845 --> 01:06:58.087
"About my sins." Go!
01:07:03.144 --> 01:07:05.727
"About my sins,"
come on, Cameron.
01:07:07.690 --> 01:07:11.183
"My homosexual sins."
Come on, Cameron.
01:07:12.070 --> 01:07:13.527
- Cameron!
- I can go.
01:07:14.614 --> 01:07:15.775
I don't... I don't mind...
01:07:15.865 --> 01:07:19.279
No, no, no. Jared, everybody
gets a turn. This is Cameron's turn.
01:07:19.536 --> 01:07:22.950
- "About my sins!" Come on!
- Found out about my sins.
01:07:25.333 --> 01:07:28.167
I hate that you never listen to me
or acknowledge me.
01:07:28.294 --> 01:07:29.580
And when you do
acknowledge me,
01:07:29.671 --> 01:07:31.471
it's to make fun of me
in front of my friends.
01:07:31.548 --> 01:07:33.130
"It's to make fun of me."
01:07:34.133 --> 01:07:36.090
To make fun of me
in front of my friends.
01:07:37.220 --> 01:07:40.804
And that time that you told me that
you wished I'd never been born.
01:07:41.933 --> 01:07:43.219
That really hurt me.
01:07:48.565 --> 01:07:49.726
Cameron...
01:07:51.484 --> 01:07:55.273
Now, you say
that you're angry,
01:07:56.155 --> 01:07:58.397
but quite frankly,
I don't really see it.
01:07:59.701 --> 01:08:02.489
Well, what's going on
in there, Cameron, huh?
01:08:04.080 --> 01:08:05.912
Do you want to change?
01:08:06.791 --> 01:08:09.249
Now you're going to wish
you hadn't been born, son,
01:08:09.335 --> 01:08:13.454
because God will not love you
the way that you are right now.
01:08:14.757 --> 01:08:17.215
Unless you really
want to change.
01:08:18.886 --> 01:08:20.548
Well? Come on!
01:08:28.479 --> 01:08:29.936
Well, I guess not.
01:08:30.106 --> 01:08:33.099
I guess not. Okay.
Let's take a break.
01:08:35.028 --> 01:08:38.487
And you are going to stay here
until you are ready to go.
01:08:38.615 --> 01:08:40.902
Everybody but Cameron,
take a break.
01:08:45.830 --> 01:08:48.664
I don't care
if you sit there all day, son.
01:09:08.144 --> 01:09:11.103
- Is this all a game to you?
- What do you mean?
01:09:12.398 --> 01:09:13.684
Listen, man.
01:09:14.275 --> 01:09:16.392
You gotta think about
why you went there.
01:09:16.694 --> 01:09:19.437
You're trying to bail him out?
Seriously?
01:09:19.822 --> 01:09:21.484
And touching him like that?
01:09:21.991 --> 01:09:23.823
Do you think no one saw?
01:09:23.910 --> 01:09:25.276
You saw him.
01:09:25.370 --> 01:09:28.238
He was very upset.
I didn't mean anything by it.
01:09:28.331 --> 01:09:29.822
I should report you.
01:09:29.999 --> 01:09:32.912
True ownership, man. Okay.
01:09:33.002 --> 01:09:36.166
This is what
moral inventory is all about.
01:09:37.006 --> 01:09:39.214
And you gotta quit
staring at me all the time.
01:09:39.801 --> 01:09:42.134
These are the urges
that we gotta stamp out.
01:09:42.345 --> 01:09:44.257
Okay, you gotta control this.
01:09:46.015 --> 01:09:48.348
- Do you even want this to work?
- Of course I do.
01:09:49.185 --> 01:09:50.892
We're all trying
to make this work.
01:09:50.978 --> 01:09:53.516
I'm having a tough time, too,
just like you are.
01:09:54.190 --> 01:09:56.273
Listen, I'm fine.
01:10:03.700 --> 01:10:05.407
It doesn't seem like it.
01:10:28.182 --> 01:10:29.702
Hey, what are you
doing in here alone?
01:10:29.726 --> 01:10:32.389
You're meant to attend bathroom
breaks with a staff member.
01:10:38.067 --> 01:10:39.979
What? Now you don't
have to pee?
01:10:44.949 --> 01:10:46.815
Or are you going to do
something solo?
01:10:49.036 --> 01:10:50.743
That's why
they make them rules.
01:10:53.833 --> 01:10:55.620
Not to be trusted.
01:10:56.335 --> 01:10:58.292
Not at this stage
of the game.
01:11:02.508 --> 01:11:03.508
Hmm.
01:11:04.260 --> 01:11:06.126
Sounds like Morse code.
01:11:07.805 --> 01:11:09.671
Sending me a message,
01:11:10.558 --> 01:11:12.015
faggot?
01:11:58.773 --> 01:12:00.639
Starting to see it
for what it is?
01:12:07.907 --> 01:12:09.114
You okay?
01:12:10.034 --> 01:12:12.367
I'm fine. I'm fine.
01:12:13.830 --> 01:12:15.617
I'm going to give you
some advice.
01:12:19.460 --> 01:12:20.917
Play the part.
01:12:23.130 --> 01:12:24.587
Show them it's working.
01:12:24.799 --> 01:12:26.256
You're getting better.
01:12:29.637 --> 01:12:31.970
Fake it until you make it,
right?
01:12:34.183 --> 01:12:37.722
You don't want to end up in one of
those houses for any length of time.
01:12:38.771 --> 01:12:41.013
I've heard the stories
and they're not good.
01:12:41.899 --> 01:12:44.107
And that's where you're
likely gonna end up.
01:12:44.819 --> 01:12:46.310
Sarah's already there.
01:12:47.613 --> 01:12:49.650
So, play the part, man.
01:12:52.243 --> 01:12:55.782
And then, once you're home,
you gotta figure out what to do next.
01:12:57.540 --> 01:13:01.159
If it comes down to it,
you may have to walk away from everything.
01:13:03.421 --> 01:13:04.707
Everyone.
01:13:08.259 --> 01:13:09.625
Thank you for today, Michael.
01:13:10.887 --> 01:13:12.094
- See you tomorrow.
- Mmm-hmm.
01:13:19.061 --> 01:13:22.475
You're gonna be on the podium any day now,
so you should have a plan.
01:13:24.066 --> 01:13:26.399
Unless you really think
you can change.
01:13:28.613 --> 01:13:30.855
Or even want to.
01:13:38.289 --> 01:13:39.808
I don't want to be
here anymore.
01:13:39.832 --> 01:13:41.915
It's a trial. It...
01:13:42.001 --> 01:13:43.145
I don't feel good here.
01:13:43.169 --> 01:13:45.035
Nobody feels good
about you being there, Jared.
01:13:45.129 --> 01:13:48.372
I don't... I don't...
I'm not sure if I feel any different.
01:13:48.466 --> 01:13:52.210
Son, son, you're not even
halfway through.
01:13:53.387 --> 01:13:55.240
Why didn't you tell me
how long I might stay for?
01:13:55.264 --> 01:13:57.256
None of us knows
the answer to that, Jared.
01:13:57.350 --> 01:13:59.453
It's kind of up to you.
You know, you just gotta give it a chance.
01:13:59.477 --> 01:14:01.514
This is like
the book of Matthew.
01:14:01.604 --> 01:14:03.081
The Devil's not
going to ask you once,
01:14:03.105 --> 01:14:04.917
he's going to ask you
over and over again, son.
01:14:04.941 --> 01:14:07.934
And you have just gotta find the
strength and commitment inside you.
01:14:08.903 --> 01:14:11.236
You can get through this,
okay?
01:14:12.365 --> 01:14:13.651
Okay?
01:14:14.533 --> 01:14:17.150
- All right.
- It's late. Get some sleep.
01:14:17.328 --> 01:14:19.615
- Good night.
- Good night.
01:14:58.119 --> 01:15:00.862
Jared? You're gonna be late.
01:15:33.237 --> 01:15:34.899
I had thoughts of men.
01:15:35.239 --> 01:15:36.775
Boys at school.
01:15:38.200 --> 01:15:39.361
At college, I...
01:15:42.455 --> 01:15:43.866
My imagination.
01:15:50.254 --> 01:15:53.213
- Hey, what's going on?
- I have no idea.
01:15:58.012 --> 01:16:00.755
- Michael, what's going on?
- Just grab a tie.
01:16:06.896 --> 01:16:10.480
Sadly, we are
gathered here today to say farewell
01:16:11.817 --> 01:16:15.276
to our son, our friend,
and our brother,
01:16:15.362 --> 01:16:16.648
Cameron Van Heusen,
01:16:16.739 --> 01:16:22.155
who by his own making last night,
fell prey to Satan's wishes.
01:16:24.038 --> 01:16:25.700
Brother Van Heusen, is this
01:16:26.332 --> 01:16:27.994
what you want for your son?
01:16:29.001 --> 01:16:30.037
No.
01:16:30.252 --> 01:16:32.710
Young man, is this you?
01:16:33.881 --> 01:16:35.747
Brother Cameron,
is this what you want?
01:16:36.509 --> 01:16:38.671
- No.
- Both of you, come on.
01:16:41.055 --> 01:16:42.591
Bring him down here.
01:16:44.183 --> 01:16:46.536
- Let's go.
- Who's gonna strike this demon down?
01:16:46.560 --> 01:16:47.846
I will.
01:16:51.107 --> 01:16:53.645
Out, you demon! Hit it!
01:16:53.734 --> 01:16:55.566
- Get out of him!
- That's it.
01:16:56.028 --> 01:16:58.736
- Out!
- Leave, demon! Leave!
01:18:55.856 --> 01:18:57.438
Sarah, come on!
01:19:31.267 --> 01:19:32.974
Stay with me.
01:19:37.398 --> 01:19:40.311
I'll prove to you that God
won't strike you down.
01:21:14.244 --> 01:21:15.610
All right,
take your seat.
01:21:15.788 --> 01:21:17.245
Welcome back, son.
01:21:18.832 --> 01:21:23.202
Now, I don't know about you all,
but today, ooh, I feel invigorated.
01:21:23.754 --> 01:21:26.918
And I feel hopeful
and a true sense that
01:21:27.383 --> 01:21:31.502
anything is possible today
in this room.
01:21:33.138 --> 01:21:34.879
Cameron, how do you feel, son?
01:21:36.642 --> 01:21:37.883
I feel great, sir.
01:21:39.645 --> 01:21:42.388
Do you feel the true presence
of God in your heart?
01:21:43.148 --> 01:21:44.148
Yes, sir.
01:21:44.358 --> 01:21:46.725
And that feels great,
doesn't it?
01:21:47.361 --> 01:21:48.772
Yes, sir, it does.
01:21:49.863 --> 01:21:50.899
For sure.
01:21:55.160 --> 01:21:56.617
I'm happy for you, son.
01:21:58.956 --> 01:22:00.492
Moral inventory.
01:22:04.753 --> 01:22:07.416
Jared, you're up, son.
01:22:11.176 --> 01:22:12.212
Come on.
01:22:12.803 --> 01:22:13.964
Come on, son.
01:22:15.264 --> 01:22:16.800
All right. Michael.
01:22:28.861 --> 01:22:31.194
And when you're ready.
01:22:34.616 --> 01:22:36.198
"I had thoughts of men.
01:22:38.412 --> 01:22:39.744
"Boys at school.
01:22:41.415 --> 01:22:44.704
"On TV. On the street.
In my imagination.
01:22:45.502 --> 01:22:49.337
"At college I held the hand of a boy and
I stayed through the night in his bed.
01:22:52.801 --> 01:22:55.794
"For these thoughts and this
action for which I felt regretful,
01:22:55.888 --> 01:22:58.048
- "I'd like to ask for God's..."
- Wait. Hold on.
01:22:59.433 --> 01:23:00.549
Jared.
01:23:02.561 --> 01:23:04.723
Come on. What else?
01:23:06.523 --> 01:23:07.730
I never...
01:23:08.692 --> 01:23:11.059
I stayed through the night
with a boy from college,
01:23:11.153 --> 01:23:12.644
but we never did
anything more.
01:23:12.779 --> 01:23:16.068
Listen, don't even try
lying to God, Jared.
01:23:16.158 --> 01:23:17.820
He already sees.
01:23:18.785 --> 01:23:20.697
So, come on. What else?
01:23:24.208 --> 01:23:27.076
I lied on my genogram.
My Uncle Chris wasn't an alcoholic.
01:23:27.169 --> 01:23:29.957
Why don't you tell us
about this Henry boy?
01:23:32.216 --> 01:23:33.707
That your daddy
told me about.
01:23:34.343 --> 01:23:36.426
That's not...
That's not fair.
01:23:36.887 --> 01:23:37.887
Why not?
01:23:38.514 --> 01:23:40.176
That's not my sin.
01:23:40.474 --> 01:23:42.636
Do you want to waste
these people's time?
01:23:42.726 --> 01:23:43.762
I'm not.
01:23:43.894 --> 01:23:47.558
No, these people who got up
here honestly and were brave...
01:23:47.648 --> 01:23:49.929
Well, I could make something up,
I could make something up.
01:23:49.983 --> 01:23:52.475
Is that what you...
Is that what you want me to do?
01:23:52.694 --> 01:23:55.687
Isn't that a sin, too?
01:23:55.781 --> 01:23:58.990
I mean, if thoughts are a sin,
I ask God's forgiveness for that,
01:23:59.076 --> 01:24:01.193
but I'm not making
anything up.
01:24:05.999 --> 01:24:07.535
Okay, then. Okay.
01:24:10.462 --> 01:24:11.623
Lie chair.
01:24:12.965 --> 01:24:16.925
I just want to make use
of some of this anger.
01:24:19.096 --> 01:24:23.636
Uh, wait. Guys, just sit.
Just stay where you are, okay?
01:24:23.725 --> 01:24:25.341
Here he is, Jared.
01:24:26.019 --> 01:24:27.601
Your father is sitting here
01:24:27.688 --> 01:24:31.557
and I want you to tell him
how affected you are by him.
01:24:31.650 --> 01:24:34.438
And how angry you are.
01:24:34.528 --> 01:24:37.316
Tell him how you hate him for the
things that he's... The way...
01:24:37.447 --> 01:24:40.110
- You can sit down. Sit down.
- But I'm not angry.
01:24:40.200 --> 01:24:41.736
- Yeah, I know.
- And he's done things
01:24:41.827 --> 01:24:43.363
- that upset me, but...
- But you are.
01:24:43.495 --> 01:24:46.033
- You're angry, but you don't...
- He's let me down...
01:24:46.123 --> 01:24:47.330
Why do I
have to be angry?
01:24:47.457 --> 01:24:49.744
Just sit.
01:24:50.043 --> 01:24:51.625
- Sit down.
- I'm not a dog.
01:24:51.753 --> 01:24:53.961
- I know.
- And I don't think anyone is responsible
01:24:54.047 --> 01:24:57.256
for me, so I don't see how it's gonna
help picking someone to blame or hate.
01:24:57.467 --> 01:25:01.006
If you don't hate anyone, Jared,
then where is all this anger coming from?
01:25:01.096 --> 01:25:02.337
Because you're
making me angry.
01:25:02.472 --> 01:25:04.429
There you go!
I want you to use that!
01:25:04.516 --> 01:25:07.554
I'm not gonna pretend I hate my father.
I don't hate my father.
01:25:07.644 --> 01:25:09.385
Jared, you do.
01:25:09.479 --> 01:25:12.142
You don't know me!
You're all crazy!
01:25:12.232 --> 01:25:13.643
- All of you!
- Hey! I didn't...
01:25:13.734 --> 01:25:15.191
Just... Jared.
01:25:15.277 --> 01:25:17.234
You're in my chair.
01:25:17.404 --> 01:25:19.566
- There you go! I hate you!
- Jared!
01:25:20.490 --> 01:25:21.947
But how
does that help?
01:25:22.034 --> 01:25:23.070
Jared!
01:25:34.004 --> 01:25:35.165
Jared!
01:25:35.255 --> 01:25:36.791
Who's in the front office?
01:25:42.095 --> 01:25:45.384
Jared! Son, let's talk. Son.
01:25:47.976 --> 01:25:49.717
Hey! Michael!
01:25:50.979 --> 01:25:52.390
Hey, hey!
Give it to me!
01:25:54.524 --> 01:25:56.641
- I want my things and I want to go.
- Jared.
01:25:57.027 --> 01:25:58.563
Michael! Hey!
01:26:00.197 --> 01:26:03.235
Hey! Michael!
Get out of the room!
01:26:03.325 --> 01:26:04.566
Come here, son.
01:26:08.080 --> 01:26:09.196
Jared!
01:26:09.373 --> 01:26:13.538
Hey, listen. What you're having
is a natural response, okay.
01:26:13.627 --> 01:26:15.227
Just... Just breathe.
01:26:23.887 --> 01:26:26.425
- Jared!
- Hey, I just need a minute.
01:26:27.599 --> 01:26:29.761
- Just go away.
- Take a minute, okay.
01:26:38.151 --> 01:26:40.108
Please pick up, Mom.
01:26:41.279 --> 01:26:42.941
- Jared?
- Mom...
01:26:43.031 --> 01:26:45.990
- Jared?
- I need you to come get me, please.
01:26:46.118 --> 01:26:47.553
What's the matter?
What's the matter?
01:26:47.577 --> 01:26:49.193
- Please, I'm in trouble.
- What...
01:26:49.329 --> 01:26:50.329
What's happened?
01:26:50.455 --> 01:26:54.165
Best thing that we can do is probably
ease him back into the session.
01:26:54.459 --> 01:26:55.916
- Hey, son.
- I called my mom
01:26:56.002 --> 01:26:57.163
and she's coming to get me.
01:26:57.671 --> 01:26:59.071
Listen, you gotta understand
01:26:59.214 --> 01:27:01.150
what you're going through
right now is just a moment.
01:27:01.174 --> 01:27:02.915
- A moment? A moment?
- Okay.
01:27:03.009 --> 01:27:04.195
And I feel exactly
what you're going through.
01:27:04.219 --> 01:27:07.053
I think that you and I should just
get everybody gone and we just talk.
01:27:07.180 --> 01:27:08.546
I don't want to talk.
I want to go.
01:27:08.807 --> 01:27:10.890
Well, Jared,
I don't want you to.
01:27:11.393 --> 01:27:12.679
I want you to stay.
01:27:12.894 --> 01:27:14.977
Well,
I read the rules
01:27:15.063 --> 01:27:17.430
and none of them say
you can stop me from leaving.
01:27:17.524 --> 01:27:19.669
I wouldn't.
Can you just check where Brandon is, please?
01:27:19.693 --> 01:27:23.562
And if you or anyone puts their hands on me,
I have witnesses.
01:27:23.655 --> 01:27:25.442
Nobody's going to
put their hands on you.
01:27:25.699 --> 01:27:27.235
Why would anybody do that?
01:27:27.409 --> 01:27:28.616
Come sit.
01:27:29.077 --> 01:27:31.069
We're gonna wait
for your mom, okay?
01:27:31.329 --> 01:27:33.912
Jesus, our Savior,
please focus on Jared.
01:27:34.124 --> 01:27:37.208
Let him see the strength
and courage that he needs.
01:27:37.294 --> 01:27:40.334
I want you to fill him right now with
all the wisdom of everybody in this room
01:27:40.380 --> 01:27:43.498
to show him how much they love him
and how much they care about him.
01:27:43.675 --> 01:27:44.916
- Be strong!
- His journey
01:27:45.010 --> 01:27:48.549
into the fire that he's walking into
and what he's willing to face.
01:27:48.638 --> 01:27:50.345
- You are a man.
- May you open his eyes
01:27:50.432 --> 01:27:52.048
and see the wisdom
that you have...
01:27:52.142 --> 01:27:53.349
- Jared!
- Mom!
01:27:53.518 --> 01:27:55.225
- Jared, honey, what's happened?
- Mom!
01:27:55.353 --> 01:27:57.206
- Hey, hey! Sit back down!
- Mom, they're not letting me go!
01:27:57.230 --> 01:27:59.438
It's not that
we're not letting him go.
01:27:59.608 --> 01:28:01.711
- Come on. Open this door.
- Just hold on, Jared.
01:28:01.735 --> 01:28:04.193
- Mrs. Eamons, my name is Victor Sykes.
- Who are you?
01:28:04.279 --> 01:28:05.520
We spoke on the telephone.
01:28:05.614 --> 01:28:07.071
I don't remember that.
Open the door.
01:28:07.157 --> 01:28:08.760
Well, I spoke with your
husband a couple times.
01:28:08.784 --> 01:28:11.993
Jared's just having a moment here borne
out of the role-playing exercise.
01:28:12.078 --> 01:28:15.321
No, no! That's not true.
Mom, tell him to open the door.
01:28:15.457 --> 01:28:18.541
- Slow down.
- Enough. Open the door now, Mr. Sykes.
01:28:18.627 --> 01:28:21.620
- Can we just all...
- I said open the door now!
01:28:21.713 --> 01:28:24.126
I'm gonna call the police
if you don't open this door.
01:28:24.257 --> 01:28:26.235
- There is no need for that.
- Slow down. Right now.
01:28:26.259 --> 01:28:27.591
Let him go!
01:28:28.595 --> 01:28:29.927
You all right, honey?
01:28:30.263 --> 01:28:31.379
Just let him go.
01:28:35.519 --> 01:28:36.976
I just...
I think that...
01:28:38.647 --> 01:28:40.684
Jared, come on.
01:28:40.816 --> 01:28:44.560
I just... I think it's more
important for his
01:28:44.778 --> 01:28:46.770
development right now
that he...
01:28:46.863 --> 01:28:49.571
Don't even listen to him.
Get in the car. Get in the car.
01:28:52.452 --> 01:28:54.239
You're gonna
ruin that child.
01:28:54.371 --> 01:28:57.284
What are your actual
qualifications, Mr. Sykes?
01:28:57.374 --> 01:28:58.910
I never asked. Hmm?
01:28:59.668 --> 01:29:02.627
Are you a doctor? Are you?
Psychologist?
01:29:02.712 --> 01:29:04.829
I mean, a proper one?
Are you?
01:29:06.800 --> 01:29:07.881
No.
01:29:08.802 --> 01:29:10.213
I didn't think so.
01:29:13.223 --> 01:29:14.634
Shame on you!
01:29:16.393 --> 01:29:18.055
Shame on me, too.
01:29:18.144 --> 01:29:20.056
Shame on you!
01:29:48.133 --> 01:29:49.465
Can I help you?
01:29:49.593 --> 01:29:51.755
Uh, I'm not sure
if I'm staying or going.
01:29:51.845 --> 01:29:53.381
All right.
Well, let me know.
01:30:05.108 --> 01:30:06.849
I talked to your father.
01:30:08.528 --> 01:30:10.064
He wants you to go back.
01:30:17.704 --> 01:30:21.744
I told him we'll see him at home.
I told him you're not going back.
01:30:25.879 --> 01:30:27.290
You know that night
01:30:28.882 --> 01:30:31.545
when Pastor Wilkes and Jim
came to the house?
01:30:33.178 --> 01:30:36.421
Those men decided what
to do with you and I just...
01:30:37.140 --> 01:30:40.554
I fell into line,
like I usually do.
01:30:43.396 --> 01:30:46.104
They say sometimes you gotta hurt
a child in order to help them
01:30:46.191 --> 01:30:48.023
and that may be so
with some things,
01:30:49.110 --> 01:30:51.944
but a mother knows
when something isn't right.
01:30:52.989 --> 01:30:55.606
And I knew in my bones
01:30:56.618 --> 01:30:58.484
this wasn't hurting to help.
01:31:01.122 --> 01:31:05.332
I was just letting you down
and I kept my mouth shut.
01:31:09.422 --> 01:31:12.290
And I will always regret that.
01:31:16.179 --> 01:31:18.341
But I can do
a different thing now.
01:31:18.682 --> 01:31:20.639
Now that I have a chance.
01:31:26.106 --> 01:31:27.972
I'll handle your father.
01:31:30.026 --> 01:31:32.985
He can fall into line with me
for a change.
01:31:39.452 --> 01:31:43.287
Some folk, they don't go to
church for the right reasons.
01:31:47.794 --> 01:31:51.037
Now, you know the type of
person I'm talking about.
01:31:54.134 --> 01:31:55.341
They just turn up.
01:32:00.515 --> 01:32:04.099
They don't use every day
of their Christian life
01:32:06.354 --> 01:32:09.893
to praise the Lord and help
bring others to His word.
01:32:11.484 --> 01:32:14.272
It might be your neighbor,
might be your friend,
01:32:14.529 --> 01:32:17.112
it might be just a face
you only ever see at church.
01:32:17.615 --> 01:32:18.856
They just turn up.
01:32:19.826 --> 01:32:21.943
I will tell something
that I know.
01:32:22.162 --> 01:32:25.746
Just turning up to church
does not make you a Christian.
01:32:25.874 --> 01:32:27.274
Yes, sir. Amen.
01:32:27.959 --> 01:32:30.793
Study the Bible.
Study His word.
01:32:31.379 --> 01:32:32.790
I can guarantee you,
01:32:33.798 --> 01:32:35.505
every question you have,
01:32:37.218 --> 01:32:41.337
you gonna find an answer
in this book.
01:32:41.848 --> 01:32:42.964
Amen.
01:32:52.275 --> 01:32:57.771
Honey, um, do you know a boy, Cameron Van Heusen?
01:32:59.365 --> 01:33:01.072
Yeah. Is he here?
01:33:01.576 --> 01:33:03.659
No. No, no.
That's the police.
01:33:05.163 --> 01:33:10.033
Apparently, this boy Cameron
killed himself last night.
01:33:19.761 --> 01:33:21.878
They want to ask you
some questions.
01:34:58.276 --> 01:35:00.063
- Hey! How you doing?
- Good.
01:35:00.153 --> 01:35:02.190
Nice to see you! I'm good.
01:35:04.073 --> 01:35:05.073
I'm good. Here.
01:35:05.158 --> 01:35:07.491
Yeah, I think
they're in the dishwasher.
01:35:08.119 --> 01:35:10.532
Come on, Chris.
Join us.
01:35:11.122 --> 01:35:12.329
Get out of the kitchen.
01:35:22.675 --> 01:35:24.166
I didn't even feel it.
01:36:29.867 --> 01:36:30.867
Mom...
01:36:30.952 --> 01:36:33.535
I gave it to him,
he has it, and he'll read it.
01:36:33.997 --> 01:36:35.204
He knows he has to.
01:36:36.207 --> 01:36:39.917
Mom, it's important he reads it,
can you just put him on?
01:36:40.962 --> 01:36:43.750
I'm calling you from Little Rock,
I'm with Aunt Mary, so...
01:36:43.840 --> 01:36:45.672
Wait. Why?
01:36:46.426 --> 01:36:48.258
You should just
call him at home.
01:36:49.012 --> 01:36:50.012
What happened?
01:36:50.722 --> 01:36:53.931
Nothing, she just needed some help
with the shop, so I came down here,
01:36:54.017 --> 01:36:55.804
and I'm driving back tonight,
I'm...
01:36:56.811 --> 01:36:58.268
I mean, nothing.
Nothing is wrong.
01:37:28.301 --> 01:37:30.133
Seriously, nothing is wrong.
01:37:30.636 --> 01:37:32.673
Why didn't you tell me
you were coming?
01:37:33.556 --> 01:37:34.637
Is he here?
01:37:35.183 --> 01:37:36.299
He left.
01:37:37.268 --> 01:37:40.306
It is Sunday, if it's urgent,
you're gonna have to go to church.
01:37:42.065 --> 01:37:43.146
Why aren't you there?
01:37:43.775 --> 01:37:45.232
Why aren't you at church?
01:37:48.321 --> 01:37:52.235
I go, sometimes.
I support your dad and...
01:37:52.950 --> 01:37:55.033
Mom, what's going on
with you two?
01:37:58.247 --> 01:37:59.454
Jared, it's...
01:38:00.583 --> 01:38:01.664
He knows.
01:38:02.251 --> 01:38:03.833
I can't be around the...
01:38:07.548 --> 01:38:11.007
I love God, God loves me.
01:38:13.888 --> 01:38:15.424
And I love my son.
01:38:16.307 --> 01:38:17.673
That simple.
01:38:19.394 --> 01:38:21.727
For your father,
it's a little more complicated.
01:38:23.481 --> 01:38:25.143
I wish it wasn't,
but it is.
01:39:02.270 --> 01:39:05.638
Did you hear about the article
I've got coming out in the Times?
01:39:07.942 --> 01:39:09.274
Do you know
what it's about?
01:39:09.652 --> 01:39:11.359
I won't get into a fight.
01:39:12.738 --> 01:39:13.945
Your mother told me, son.
01:39:14.031 --> 01:39:15.112
It's not a fight.
01:39:15.533 --> 01:39:18.776
I'm just doing the right thing.
I'm letting you know.
01:39:21.330 --> 01:39:22.446
I've written more,
01:39:22.540 --> 01:39:25.658
and the publishers are talking about
me putting together a whole book.
01:39:27.879 --> 01:39:30.041
You don't need to read
any of it.
01:39:31.632 --> 01:39:34.420
I just needed you to know
that it might be out there.
01:39:34.510 --> 01:39:35.671
Well,
01:39:37.054 --> 01:39:38.135
now I know.
01:39:38.222 --> 01:39:40.384
But it might be good
for you to read.
01:39:41.309 --> 01:39:45.303
Because you never really asked
what went on there.
01:39:46.230 --> 01:39:49.064
You never really knew
the staff or...
01:39:49.150 --> 01:39:50.357
- You're right.
- Or...
01:39:50.443 --> 01:39:51.443
You're right.
01:39:52.153 --> 01:39:57.023
When the situation came up,
I did what I've often done in my life.
01:39:58.743 --> 01:40:00.985
I sought the counsel
of wiser men
01:40:02.371 --> 01:40:03.737
and I followed their advice.
01:40:05.082 --> 01:40:06.368
What would you do now?
01:40:07.585 --> 01:40:08.951
Now that you are
running things?
01:40:09.086 --> 01:40:10.293
Enough.
01:40:14.675 --> 01:40:15.675
Good night.
01:40:46.082 --> 01:40:47.539
For me.
01:41:39.844 --> 01:41:41.196
Is there something
you need help with?
01:41:41.220 --> 01:41:43.132
Because you know
I gotta make my flight.
01:41:43.222 --> 01:41:45.214
Yeah, now, this was
going to be for Christmas.
01:41:45.808 --> 01:41:48.266
But, uh, you know,
your mother tells me
01:41:48.352 --> 01:41:50.435
you like to drive upstate
sometimes to write.
01:41:50.605 --> 01:41:52.688
Dad, I live in New York.
I don't need a car.
01:41:53.983 --> 01:41:57.818
She also tells me
you like to write by hand
01:41:57.903 --> 01:41:59.360
before you use
your computer.
01:42:00.489 --> 01:42:01.489
Just like me.
01:42:03.284 --> 01:42:08.279
This pen is made from a
cedar tree grown in Israel.
01:42:10.750 --> 01:42:11.911
Guided me.
01:42:12.543 --> 01:42:15.081
I've written every sermon
that I have ever delivered
01:42:15.171 --> 01:42:17.709
in this new church
with this pen.
01:42:21.302 --> 01:42:22.543
One writer to another.
01:42:35.441 --> 01:42:36.977
I don't want to
pretend anymore.
01:42:40.071 --> 01:42:41.812
We don't need to
spend time together.
01:42:42.698 --> 01:42:43.734
We don't need to speak
01:42:43.824 --> 01:42:46.157
unless we're going to
talk to each other properly.
01:42:47.078 --> 01:42:48.078
Like...
01:42:48.287 --> 01:42:51.871
You've done some
things that have really hurt me.
01:42:53.376 --> 01:42:58.167
Like you never asked if there
was more to my story at college.
01:43:00.466 --> 01:43:02.458
You never asked
if I was okay.
01:43:04.095 --> 01:43:06.633
You were too focused
on how it affected you.
01:43:10.518 --> 01:43:14.683
There's so many things
that we've never spoken about.
01:43:15.898 --> 01:43:17.560
And I don't know
if we ever will.
01:43:18.526 --> 01:43:19.526
Yeah.
01:43:26.784 --> 01:43:28.741
You know, all this was
going to be yours.
01:43:29.954 --> 01:43:35.074
I mean, it still will be,
but I meant to run and to make a living from.
01:43:38.921 --> 01:43:40.082
I understand.
01:43:41.382 --> 01:43:42.839
We all got our own paths.
01:43:45.052 --> 01:43:49.137
The truth is
I want you to do well.
01:43:50.433 --> 01:43:52.345
I want you
to have a great life.
01:43:53.102 --> 01:43:54.102
I love you.
01:43:56.188 --> 01:43:57.975
But I can't pretend either.
01:43:59.442 --> 01:44:01.229
There are things
I disagree with.
01:44:02.528 --> 01:44:05.441
And I'll admit, I'll be honest,
I'm, you know...
01:44:05.531 --> 01:44:10.026
I am being prideful when I resent the
fact that I may never be a grandparent.
01:44:10.119 --> 01:44:11.610
Now, that's just the truth.
01:44:12.496 --> 01:44:15.113
It's hard for me to admit
that I have hurt you.
01:44:17.168 --> 01:44:20.457
And that with my beliefs
and with all that's gone on,
01:44:20.546 --> 01:44:23.960
I understand I may have
set myself up to lose you.
01:44:25.092 --> 01:44:30.679
And I've had to ask myself
and God if I'm ready for that.
01:44:38.481 --> 01:44:41.724
I do not want to lose you.
01:44:42.735 --> 01:44:44.317
Well, it doesn't feel
like that.
01:44:45.154 --> 01:44:48.898
I'm sick of avoiding you.
I'm sick of talking about nothing.
01:44:49.366 --> 01:44:50.652
I'm sick of it.
01:44:51.702 --> 01:44:54.035
I'm gay and I'm your son.
01:44:55.289 --> 01:44:57.576
And neither of those things
are going to change.
01:44:58.375 --> 01:45:00.287
Okay, so let's deal with that.
01:45:00.377 --> 01:45:01.959
Or let's call it a day.
01:45:03.005 --> 01:45:06.840
Both of us would be okay,
but that would be a shame.
01:45:11.096 --> 01:45:13.133
I'm not changing.
There's no changing me.
01:45:15.184 --> 01:45:16.425
God knows I tried.
01:45:17.770 --> 01:45:19.261
So, if you mean it,
01:45:20.356 --> 01:45:21.597
if you really mean that,
01:45:24.693 --> 01:45:26.229
and you're not ready
to lose me,
01:45:29.490 --> 01:45:32.528
then I'm sorry, but you're going
to have to be the one to change.
01:45:34.620 --> 01:45:35.952
I understand.
01:45:39.166 --> 01:45:40.327
I am going to try.
01:45:47.174 --> 01:45:48.290
I'll try.
01:45:50.928 --> 01:45:52.260
I gotta get going.
01:46:18.414 --> 01:46:19.530
Dad,
01:46:20.374 --> 01:46:23.037
I've invited Mom to my place
for Christmas.
01:46:23.335 --> 01:46:24.335
Yeah.
01:46:26.505 --> 01:46:27.996
You're welcome to come, too.