WEBVTT 00:00:37.704 --> 00:00:40.993 Jared! Why are you upset, honey? 00:00:41.250 --> 00:00:42.832 I want my jersey. 00:00:42.960 --> 00:00:44.792 Well, it's because it's dirty. 00:00:44.878 --> 00:00:46.039 I want it. 00:00:50.509 --> 00:00:53.126 You know, today is your first day at school. 00:00:53.804 --> 00:00:54.804 What? 00:00:56.807 --> 00:00:58.639 You like to play something in particular? 00:00:58.934 --> 00:01:00.345 Uh, soccer. 00:01:00.435 --> 00:01:02.051 You like to play soccer. And? 00:01:02.145 --> 00:01:03.727 And basketball! 00:01:04.064 --> 00:01:05.396 What's your favorite color? 00:01:06.817 --> 00:01:08.058 Uh... 00:01:08.986 --> 00:01:10.397 Uh, blue and yellow. 00:01:10.487 --> 00:01:12.228 - Blue... - And yellow. 00:01:12.322 --> 00:01:13.904 And yellow. 00:01:14.700 --> 00:01:17.033 What would you like to be when you grow up? 00:01:17.119 --> 00:01:19.327 Motorcycle driver! 00:01:25.335 --> 00:01:27.201 Bye! Hi! 00:01:35.971 --> 00:01:38.964 Jared. You should come down for breakfast. 00:01:49.860 --> 00:01:51.726 I wish none of this had ever happened. 00:01:54.448 --> 00:01:57.191 But sometimes, I thank God that it did. 00:03:08.897 --> 00:03:11.355 Please, repeat after me. Let your light shine. 00:03:11.483 --> 00:03:13.065 Let your light shine. 00:03:13.151 --> 00:03:14.253 Now, let me see a show of hands 00:03:14.277 --> 00:03:17.190 for those of you in this room who are imperfect. 00:03:18.532 --> 00:03:19.739 Everybody. 00:03:20.200 --> 00:03:21.441 That's right. 00:03:21.535 --> 00:03:24.653 And a show of hands for everybody in this room who is perfect. 00:03:26.456 --> 00:03:27.947 - Nobody. - Amen. 00:03:29.334 --> 00:03:33.123 I am blessed with a beautiful and deeply soulful wife. 00:03:34.214 --> 00:03:37.423 And with a fine, upstanding, 00:03:39.261 --> 00:03:40.547 and honest son. 00:03:41.596 --> 00:03:42.757 I'm a lucky man. 00:03:43.807 --> 00:03:45.639 And I'm grateful for those blessings. 00:03:58.238 --> 00:04:00.446 Please don't do that. You know that makes me nervous. 00:04:02.701 --> 00:04:04.178 What if a truck comes along and hits your arm? 00:04:04.202 --> 00:04:06.162 - It's never gonna happen. - It's happened before. 00:04:07.539 --> 00:04:09.747 It has. It has. 00:04:41.031 --> 00:04:42.943 Good morning. Welcome to Love in Action. 00:04:43.325 --> 00:04:44.325 Hi. 00:04:44.993 --> 00:04:45.993 Name? 00:04:46.286 --> 00:04:48.243 Uh, Nancy Eamons. 00:04:49.247 --> 00:04:51.990 Oh, um, the boy, I mean. 00:04:52.125 --> 00:04:54.617 - Unless you're the one checking in. - Jared Eamons. 00:04:56.379 --> 00:04:57.495 Got you right here. 00:05:05.430 --> 00:05:07.467 Great. Do you want to say your goodbyes? 00:05:08.016 --> 00:05:09.257 Can I see the place? 00:05:09.351 --> 00:05:12.185 I'm afraid you won't be allowed beyond the reception area, Mrs. Eamons, 00:05:12.270 --> 00:05:14.387 - but you can pick him up at 5:00 p.m. - Oh. 00:05:14.481 --> 00:05:15.481 Okay. 00:05:17.776 --> 00:05:18.937 It's okay, Mom. 00:05:24.115 --> 00:05:27.404 Well, call me any time. I'll be at the hotel on my cell phone. 00:05:27.702 --> 00:05:30.115 Uh, we will be holding his cell phone. 00:05:30.205 --> 00:05:32.538 If there are any emergencies, we will contact you. 00:05:32.624 --> 00:05:34.490 But otherwise, 5:00 p.m. 00:05:41.508 --> 00:05:42.749 You'll do great. 00:05:45.554 --> 00:05:46.715 Love you. 00:05:49.683 --> 00:05:50.969 Newbie. Eamons. 00:05:53.395 --> 00:05:54.511 Empty your pockets. 00:06:04.197 --> 00:06:06.637 Do you have any numbers or photos we should be concerned about? 00:06:08.535 --> 00:06:10.868 We'll check it daily and call any number at random, 00:06:10.954 --> 00:06:13.162 so you best be straight with us on that. 00:06:13.331 --> 00:06:16.165 There's nothing. And, yeah, call whatever numbers if you need to. 00:06:18.753 --> 00:06:22.042 "Sobriety. No smoking, no alcohol or drugs." 00:06:23.174 --> 00:06:27.544 "Off hours. All clients to remain within a safe zone area as designated." 00:06:28.597 --> 00:06:32.011 "Attire. Women's skirts must extend below the knee 00:06:32.100 --> 00:06:33.536 "and bras are to be worn at all times." 00:06:33.560 --> 00:06:34.560 What's that? 00:06:34.811 --> 00:06:38.805 - Oh, it's, um... - I write stories. 00:06:38.899 --> 00:06:40.060 I'm studying in a college... 00:06:40.150 --> 00:06:42.312 No journaling. We're gonna have to read that. 00:06:43.361 --> 00:06:44.647 "Confidentiality. 00:06:44.738 --> 00:06:47.697 "All matters discussed in therapy are to remain private." 00:06:48.700 --> 00:06:50.032 "Restrooms. 00:06:50.118 --> 00:06:53.532 "Members must be supervised by staff during restroom visits." 00:06:53.663 --> 00:06:55.950 - Your handbook. - Oh, yeah. 00:06:57.417 --> 00:06:58.498 Good luck. 00:06:59.210 --> 00:07:00.210 Thank you. 00:07:00.295 --> 00:07:03.879 "No viewing of pornographic material, no masturbation, 00:07:03.965 --> 00:07:06.708 "no physical contact with any member at any time, 00:07:06.801 --> 00:07:09.293 "apart from the briefest of handshakes." 00:07:40.251 --> 00:07:41.312 Michael for Aaron, 00:07:41.336 --> 00:07:43.202 how many clients are we expecting today? 00:07:43.630 --> 00:07:45.371 Copy, Michael. Hold, please. 00:07:45.465 --> 00:07:46.751 Uh, just one second, Jared. 00:07:47.968 --> 00:07:49.584 We should have 11 today. 00:07:50.345 --> 00:07:51.945 Well, we have more in the lobby. 00:07:52.722 --> 00:07:54.575 It's okay. We should get another five minutes. 00:07:54.599 --> 00:07:55.760 Copy. 00:07:55.850 --> 00:07:57.887 Jared, if you just want to go find yourself a seat 00:07:57.978 --> 00:07:59.956 and then make yourself comfortable. We'll get started soon. 00:08:06.486 --> 00:08:07.602 - Hi. - Hi. 00:08:16.162 --> 00:08:17.162 Morning. 00:08:18.164 --> 00:08:19.164 Hi. 00:08:19.416 --> 00:08:22.329 "Sinful, salacious, and extraneous materials. 00:08:22.794 --> 00:08:25.537 "All reading material and films and television 00:08:25.630 --> 00:08:27.496 "are off limits while inside the program." 00:08:30.969 --> 00:08:35.009 I am using sexual sin and homosexuality 00:08:35.098 --> 00:08:37.636 to fill a God-shaped void in my life. 00:08:38.101 --> 00:08:42.141 I am using sexual sin and homosexuality 00:08:42.230 --> 00:08:44.517 to fill a God-shaped void in my life. 00:08:44.649 --> 00:08:48.643 But I am not broken, and God loves me. 00:08:48.987 --> 00:08:51.730 But I am not broken, and God loves me. 00:08:51.823 --> 00:08:53.439 Good. That is very true. 00:08:53.533 --> 00:08:56.867 Now somebody tell me what this is. 00:08:58.955 --> 00:09:00.241 A dollar. 00:09:00.331 --> 00:09:01.412 A dollar. 00:09:02.042 --> 00:09:04.955 Now, no matter how much you crumple up a dollar bill, 00:09:05.920 --> 00:09:07.661 you can never take away its value. 00:09:09.507 --> 00:09:11.965 Now even if you were to rip it, 00:09:12.844 --> 00:09:15.552 which would represent our being severed from Christ, 00:09:15.638 --> 00:09:16.719 well, guess what? 00:09:17.432 --> 00:09:18.968 You can always tape it back together. 00:09:20.143 --> 00:09:22.260 Jesus puts us back together. 00:09:23.271 --> 00:09:27.311 And even though there is a scar, our value does not change. 00:09:28.193 --> 00:09:29.980 - You are somebody. - Sorry. 00:09:30.070 --> 00:09:33.063 You are worth something. That's okay, Jon. Sit down. 00:09:33.156 --> 00:09:35.648 And that is a fact. Don't spend it all at once, Phillip. 00:09:36.826 --> 00:09:39.489 Now, this may be the toughest, but most rewarding 00:09:39.579 --> 00:09:41.696 12 days that many of you will ever face. 00:09:42.540 --> 00:09:44.327 But we have just one task, 00:09:44.417 --> 00:09:47.455 to bring ourselves back to God. 00:09:48.671 --> 00:09:50.287 To invite him back in. 00:09:50.423 --> 00:09:52.631 To understand how he truly meant to create us 00:09:52.717 --> 00:09:54.629 before all those pieces got torn away. 00:09:55.220 --> 00:09:58.713 Now, look, I know the road here wasn't easy for many of you. 00:09:59.849 --> 00:10:02.762 But I promise a smoother ride now that you're here. 00:10:02.852 --> 00:10:08.064 Because we are about to go on an amazing journey together. 00:10:08.733 --> 00:10:09.849 So, who's ready? 00:10:12.195 --> 00:10:15.359 That was a question. Who's ready? Say amen! 00:10:15.573 --> 00:10:16.780 Amen. 00:10:16.866 --> 00:10:19.529 Amen! If you know you're worth a dollar, say amen! 00:10:19.661 --> 00:10:20.661 Amen! 00:10:22.038 --> 00:10:24.746 Welcome to the Refuge program! Come on! 00:10:26.709 --> 00:10:29.793 That's right, great souls! Great! 00:10:40.265 --> 00:10:41.534 Now, I'm gonna tell you something 00:10:41.558 --> 00:10:44.551 that's gonna make you immediately feel a little better. 00:10:44.936 --> 00:10:47.303 People tell you you can be born gay, that's not true. 00:10:47.897 --> 00:10:50.605 You cannot be born a homosexual, this is a lie. 00:10:51.359 --> 00:10:55.603 Now, I'm a counselor and a pastor, but was I born that way? 00:10:56.281 --> 00:10:57.317 No. 00:10:58.074 --> 00:11:01.112 It's behavioral. It's a choice. 00:11:02.245 --> 00:11:06.660 Cameron, you, you, uh, play football? Yeah? 00:11:06.749 --> 00:11:08.285 - Yeah. - Were you born that way? 00:11:09.586 --> 00:11:10.747 - No. - No. 00:11:10.837 --> 00:11:14.001 Now, you chose to be a football player, right? 00:11:14.382 --> 00:11:15.382 It's behavior. 00:11:15.466 --> 00:11:17.378 Now, if you... If Cameron stops playing football, 00:11:17.468 --> 00:11:19.334 he no longer is a football player. 00:11:19.429 --> 00:11:22.513 We gotta learn for ourselves where behavior comes from 00:11:22.599 --> 00:11:24.181 so we can cut it out 00:11:24.267 --> 00:11:26.384 and then we can no longer be labeled that way. 00:11:27.312 --> 00:11:29.178 Now, who can tell us what a genogram is? 00:11:30.273 --> 00:11:31.480 Phillip. 00:11:31.608 --> 00:11:34.100 - Well, a genogram is like a family tree... - Mmm. 00:11:34.194 --> 00:11:37.733 ...only one that shows patterns of family behavior as well. 00:11:37.822 --> 00:11:39.188 Sort of like an illustrated one. 00:11:39.282 --> 00:11:43.572 Yes. Now, we are going to draw our family tree 00:11:43.661 --> 00:11:47.746 and we're gonna list next to these people their behavioral sin. 00:11:47.832 --> 00:11:49.994 So, they made us 00:11:51.336 --> 00:11:53.453 and they labeled us, so we're gonna label them. 00:11:53.546 --> 00:11:55.754 Michael, can you read the behavioral sins? 00:11:58.134 --> 00:12:01.218 We use the letters SSA or H 00:12:01.304 --> 00:12:04.797 to label same sex attraction or homosexuality, 00:12:05.975 --> 00:12:07.307 D for drugs, 00:12:08.228 --> 00:12:10.094 a dollar sign for gambling, 00:12:10.939 --> 00:12:12.726 A, alcoholism, 00:12:13.650 --> 00:12:15.266 P, promiscuity, 00:12:16.152 --> 00:12:17.984 M, mental illness, 00:12:19.113 --> 00:12:22.106 capital A, lowercase B for abortion, 00:12:22.200 --> 00:12:25.193 capital P, lowercase O for pornography, 00:12:25.286 --> 00:12:28.404 and C or G, criminal or gang affiliation. 00:12:28.498 --> 00:12:31.491 You're forgetting DV, domestic violence. 00:12:31.584 --> 00:12:34.452 Capital D, lowercase V, domestic violence. 00:12:35.129 --> 00:12:37.166 Okay. Guys, let's dive right in. 00:12:37.257 --> 00:12:40.170 Let's grab some cards and some markers. 00:12:40.260 --> 00:12:42.001 I want you to write them down 00:12:43.554 --> 00:12:45.841 and put the letters next to their names. 00:12:45.932 --> 00:12:47.798 I know they're family, 00:12:47.892 --> 00:12:50.726 but I can guarantee that one or some of these people 00:12:50.812 --> 00:12:53.600 are the reason that you're at Love in Action. 00:12:55.775 --> 00:12:58.984 So, Jared, you must be the preacher's son. 00:12:59.487 --> 00:13:02.355 You know or you don't know. 00:13:02.740 --> 00:13:04.402 What's the question mark for? 00:13:05.576 --> 00:13:07.818 Uncle Chris is an alcoholic. 00:13:10.873 --> 00:13:11.873 Hmm. 00:13:12.625 --> 00:13:14.867 Well, this must be pretty tough on your family, huh? 00:13:16.004 --> 00:13:19.418 Give ear, O my people, to my law. 00:13:19.507 --> 00:13:21.965 Incline your ears to the words of my mouth. 00:13:22.051 --> 00:13:24.634 I will open my mouth in a parable. 00:13:25.054 --> 00:13:27.387 I will utter dark sayings which we have heard. 00:13:28.141 --> 00:13:29.177 No. 00:13:29.517 --> 00:13:30.803 Sounds good, Dad. 00:13:31.436 --> 00:13:33.143 Are you ready? We gotta get going. 00:13:33.229 --> 00:13:34.811 Why are we going to Dallas tomorrow? 00:13:36.149 --> 00:13:38.857 Architect's updated the, uh, remodel plans for the ministry. 00:13:38.943 --> 00:13:42.186 Now we're gonna take a tour of two similar churches right there. 00:13:45.742 --> 00:13:48.780 Do you think I could stay at Chloe's when you go instead? 00:13:52.665 --> 00:13:53.934 It's okay, I can stay at Wayne's. 00:13:53.958 --> 00:13:55.995 - Or... Or, I'll just... - I'm okay with that. 00:13:56.169 --> 00:13:58.161 In fact, I think it is a great idea. 00:13:59.005 --> 00:14:02.874 You're both mature kids who know how to conduct themselves 00:14:03.051 --> 00:14:05.259 and who by now know how the world works. 00:14:06.929 --> 00:14:12.266 You know, son, small steps toward manhood. That's the way to learn. 00:14:13.853 --> 00:14:16.687 That way you don't get all panicky when it suddenly arrives. 00:14:18.900 --> 00:14:20.641 You do know what I'm saying, Romeo? 00:14:20.735 --> 00:14:21.851 - Yes, sir. - Okay. 00:14:22.153 --> 00:14:23.153 Let's go, we're late. 00:14:23.237 --> 00:14:26.321 Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you for this beautiful day 00:14:26.532 --> 00:14:29.195 and, Lord, we pray that you look over our shoulder 00:14:29.285 --> 00:14:31.242 as we march out onto the floor 00:14:31.329 --> 00:14:35.039 and that we show our customers the love and kindness that you show us. 00:14:35.458 --> 00:14:37.666 In Jesus Christ's name and for his sake... 00:14:37.752 --> 00:14:39.163 Morning! Let your light shine! 00:14:39.379 --> 00:14:40.995 - Amen. - Amen. 00:14:41.089 --> 00:14:42.969 - All right. - Have a great day. 00:14:50.348 --> 00:14:52.931 Rebels on three. One, two, three... 00:14:53.017 --> 00:14:54.224 Rebels! 00:14:58.564 --> 00:14:59.771 You did so good. 00:15:01.317 --> 00:15:05.357 Right, buddy? Assists, one of the most underrated components of the game. 00:15:05.571 --> 00:15:08.008 - Congratulations. - I saw you setting up all the points. 00:15:08.032 --> 00:15:09.718 - Oh, that's victory sweat. - Dad, I'm... 00:15:09.742 --> 00:15:11.404 - Yeah! - I played, like, five minutes. 00:15:11.828 --> 00:15:13.430 - Hey. - I think you played more than that. 00:15:13.454 --> 00:15:15.867 How about you? Another underrated component of the game. 00:15:15.998 --> 00:15:17.643 - Thank you. How are you? - Congratulations, beautiful girl. 00:15:17.667 --> 00:15:19.603 I was worried about you. I thought they were going to drop you. 00:15:19.627 --> 00:15:21.118 Oh, no, don't worry. 00:15:21.212 --> 00:15:22.703 You kids going to go celebrate? 00:15:22.797 --> 00:15:25.164 Yeah, some of us, I think we're gonna go to the lake. 00:15:25.258 --> 00:15:26.965 All right. The lake. 00:15:28.678 --> 00:15:32.763 All right. Dealership's going to put me in an Expedition, so it's yours. 00:15:33.891 --> 00:15:34.891 Wow. 00:15:35.476 --> 00:15:37.058 - Dad! - All right. 00:15:37.562 --> 00:15:39.098 It's gonna be for your birthday, 00:15:39.188 --> 00:15:40.999 but tonight's a good night, so congratulations. 00:15:41.023 --> 00:15:43.085 - Thank you so much. Thank you. - Go and have fun. 00:15:43.109 --> 00:15:45.146 I want to see if your mama wants to go to the lake. 00:16:23.065 --> 00:16:24.065 They're still up. 00:16:42.960 --> 00:16:43.960 What? 00:16:49.175 --> 00:16:51.633 If it's not hard, I can make it hard. 00:16:52.136 --> 00:16:55.004 Don't you think we should wait until, you know... 00:16:55.097 --> 00:16:56.133 Until... 00:16:57.850 --> 00:17:00.433 - You know... - Until what? We get married? 00:17:03.272 --> 00:17:05.104 That's what my parents think we should do. 00:17:07.860 --> 00:17:09.852 To keep us together through college. 00:17:17.161 --> 00:17:18.197 Hey. 00:17:20.790 --> 00:17:21.997 Is something wrong? 00:17:23.042 --> 00:17:24.123 No. 00:17:27.505 --> 00:17:28.505 Jared. 00:17:30.758 --> 00:17:33.341 Ready to pack it up? We're about done for the day. Looks nice. 00:17:35.346 --> 00:17:37.383 5:00, everyone! It's home time. 00:17:38.975 --> 00:17:40.967 - Bye. - 5:00, let's go! 00:17:44.981 --> 00:17:46.621 All right, everybody, pack it up. 00:17:48.025 --> 00:17:49.311 Name tag. 00:17:51.988 --> 00:17:53.668 - Thanks. - 9:00 a.m. tomorrow. 00:18:00.830 --> 00:18:01.830 Uh... 00:18:02.748 --> 00:18:05.286 Hey, you tore out the pages. 00:18:05.459 --> 00:18:07.325 - Mmm. - They're just stories. 00:18:07.670 --> 00:18:09.332 Mr. Sykes will decide that. 00:18:10.298 --> 00:18:11.334 For Michael. 00:18:12.717 --> 00:18:13.753 Go for Michael. 00:18:14.176 --> 00:18:15.542 Are you still in the office? 00:18:36.991 --> 00:18:40.610 Are you... Are you a soldier? Were you in the military or something? 00:18:40.703 --> 00:18:42.740 - I saw you salute earlier. - No. 00:18:44.081 --> 00:18:46.824 - I'm trying zero contact whatsoever. - Mmm. 00:18:46.917 --> 00:18:48.158 Twenty-three days now. 00:18:49.837 --> 00:18:52.830 So, I salute instead. 00:18:55.760 --> 00:18:56.967 This group seems good. 00:18:58.554 --> 00:18:59.886 Have you been here before? 00:19:00.222 --> 00:19:03.215 Yeah, it's my second time in the Refuge program. 00:19:03.893 --> 00:19:05.885 I started a couple days late last time. 00:19:05.978 --> 00:19:09.187 And actually, I'm waiting for a place to open in one of the houses. 00:19:09.273 --> 00:19:11.936 - What houses? - The houses. 00:19:12.151 --> 00:19:15.189 They have a few houses behind the property for the long stayers. 00:19:15.613 --> 00:19:19.778 Meanwhile, I'm stuck at the Baybrook with my dad, 00:19:19.867 --> 00:19:21.529 which is interesting. 00:19:24.705 --> 00:19:28.415 - Are you in one of the local hotels, too? - Yeah. 00:19:31.170 --> 00:19:33.378 So, like, how long will you stay for? 00:19:36.133 --> 00:19:39.752 It's not really up to me. Mr. Sykes decides. 00:19:40.805 --> 00:19:43.718 - No one explained that to you? - No, no. 00:19:44.934 --> 00:19:49.269 This is just an assessment program, until they know what to do with you. 00:19:50.314 --> 00:19:53.807 Hey, listen. Just lean into it, man. 00:19:55.069 --> 00:19:56.105 Yeah. 00:19:56.195 --> 00:19:58.733 Do the work and trust me, man, 00:20:00.116 --> 00:20:01.357 you're gonna love it here. 00:20:02.827 --> 00:20:04.739 Aren't you gonna tell me about your day? 00:20:05.413 --> 00:20:07.746 We're not meant to talk about it outside of group. 00:20:08.457 --> 00:20:12.326 I don't need gossip, I just... I just mean generally. 00:20:13.838 --> 00:20:15.295 I'm gonna lean into it 00:20:16.006 --> 00:20:17.497 and there are some good people. 00:20:17.591 --> 00:20:18.752 And, yeah, I like it. 00:20:19.552 --> 00:20:23.091 - I'm excited to be here. - That's good! 00:20:31.063 --> 00:20:35.649 Do we have people in the family who had issues with any of this stuff? 00:20:47.663 --> 00:20:50.076 - Pornography? - Mom... 00:20:56.464 --> 00:20:59.332 Drugs? Gang affiliation. 00:20:59.425 --> 00:21:01.542 Gang affiliations? What is this? 00:21:01.761 --> 00:21:03.218 I need to know for homework. 00:21:03.888 --> 00:21:05.880 Why do they need to know about the family? 00:21:06.682 --> 00:21:08.594 Our family is so normal. 00:21:36.670 --> 00:21:38.627 Big day tomorrow, hmm? 00:21:39.840 --> 00:21:41.376 You get some good sleep, now. 00:21:45.971 --> 00:21:48.884 Oh, um, I filled out your homework for you. 00:21:53.187 --> 00:21:57.101 I was only in a gang for a year or so until I went down for drugs. 00:21:58.025 --> 00:21:59.357 Got sent to prison. 00:22:00.820 --> 00:22:01.856 Haha! 00:22:08.786 --> 00:22:10.527 I put your Uncle Vincent down there. 00:22:11.497 --> 00:22:15.241 You've never met him because he moved to Louisiana when you were little, so... 00:22:16.210 --> 00:22:17.701 We just never see him. 00:22:18.879 --> 00:22:20.541 We always figured that he... 00:22:27.388 --> 00:22:29.755 He was very feminine-like, you might say. 00:22:32.893 --> 00:22:35.510 All right. Oh, I'm tired. 00:22:37.898 --> 00:22:39.890 - Night night. - Good night. 00:22:48.200 --> 00:22:50.863 What is a real man? 00:22:52.580 --> 00:22:54.537 What does a real man look like? 00:22:55.583 --> 00:22:56.869 Does anybody know? 00:22:58.627 --> 00:23:01.791 Guys, uncross your legs. Posture, come on. 00:23:02.298 --> 00:23:06.133 Now, perhaps being close to the flames of hell 00:23:07.094 --> 00:23:11.134 and finding your way back shows a great strength. 00:23:12.057 --> 00:23:13.673 And if that were so, then, 00:23:14.393 --> 00:23:17.431 if this isn't a real man, then I don't know what is. 00:23:17.605 --> 00:23:20.097 This is Brandon Ellis, guys. I want you to say hello. 00:23:20.190 --> 00:23:21.668 - Thanks, Sykes. - Make him welcome. 00:23:21.692 --> 00:23:22.692 Over to you, Brandon. 00:23:25.821 --> 00:23:27.904 God bless, God bless. 00:23:28.532 --> 00:23:31.616 A real man to me is a man of God first and foremost 00:23:32.995 --> 00:23:34.531 and I'm a man of God, no doubt. 00:23:35.372 --> 00:23:36.988 I guess that counts me in. 00:23:38.584 --> 00:23:39.700 But I wasn't once. 00:23:41.170 --> 00:23:43.878 If I was ever listed on my own son's genograms, 00:23:44.173 --> 00:23:47.211 there'd be so many of these letters next to my name it would look like 00:23:47.843 --> 00:23:51.257 qualifications for some fancy university. 00:23:51.347 --> 00:23:54.431 Drugs, violence, gang crime, prison time, 00:23:54.600 --> 00:23:57.092 but I actually believe I'm qualified to be here. 00:23:57.811 --> 00:24:00.929 Not because I've ever had the types of thoughts and feelings 00:24:01.023 --> 00:24:02.309 that y'all are wrestling with, 00:24:02.441 --> 00:24:05.149 or that your other guidance counselors have overcome righteously. 00:24:06.153 --> 00:24:10.568 But I've had all sorts of my own trials that took me so far away from the Lord 00:24:11.075 --> 00:24:15.115 that it's a true miracle that I'm standing here before you today. 00:24:16.747 --> 00:24:19.660 But I am. I am. 00:24:25.297 --> 00:24:28.415 Standing, leaning, sitting. 00:24:29.009 --> 00:24:30.500 All the same idea. 00:24:30.970 --> 00:24:33.758 Triangles are the strongest shape. 00:24:33.973 --> 00:24:36.056 Remember, hands on hips. Go! 00:24:37.393 --> 00:24:38.634 Save yourself. 00:24:42.356 --> 00:24:45.565 Fingers forward, not back. Just the way it is. 00:24:45.985 --> 00:24:48.819 Think of the shapes you're making and ask yourself, 00:24:49.905 --> 00:24:54.400 "Is this a manly shape I'm making or is it a girly or feminine shape?" 00:24:55.703 --> 00:24:56.819 Sarah, come on up here. 00:24:58.163 --> 00:24:59.825 Come on, you delicate flower, you. 00:25:00.958 --> 00:25:01.958 Okay. 00:25:02.167 --> 00:25:05.786 I want you to arrange these guys into a line 00:25:05.879 --> 00:25:07.916 in terms of masculinity, if you will. 00:25:09.800 --> 00:25:11.336 Go on, you can do it. 00:25:12.594 --> 00:25:13.801 Follow your instincts. 00:25:16.724 --> 00:25:21.014 Myself and other addicts and alcoholics put our faith in AA. 00:25:21.603 --> 00:25:25.938 Get familiar with this phrase, "Fake it till you make it." 00:25:26.984 --> 00:25:29.772 Y'all folks and kids being what you're afflicted with, 00:25:30.404 --> 00:25:31.940 you gotta learn how to survive. 00:25:33.323 --> 00:25:34.689 When you're in prison, 00:25:34.783 --> 00:25:37.150 you'd surprise yourself what you can do to fit in. 00:25:37.244 --> 00:25:40.282 Come on, Phillip. Eye on the ball. 00:25:40.622 --> 00:25:42.784 Come on! Okay, next. 00:25:42.875 --> 00:25:45.834 Fake it till you make it. Become the man you are not. 00:25:45.919 --> 00:25:49.037 So, you think Cameron here is the big winner, huh? 00:25:50.382 --> 00:25:52.715 You think being big and tall 00:25:52.801 --> 00:25:55.794 and overeating immediately puts a guy at the front of the line. 00:25:56.555 --> 00:26:00.139 But it's more than triangles and postures and genetics. 00:26:01.143 --> 00:26:03.351 A firm handshake... Let's go! Do it! 00:26:04.938 --> 00:26:06.145 Gotta pick up the bat. 00:26:07.316 --> 00:26:08.648 Hold the bat up! 00:26:10.277 --> 00:26:11.393 Get back up on that horse! 00:26:12.237 --> 00:26:13.773 All right, just get him out of there. 00:26:16.408 --> 00:26:17.944 Lee, you're gonna be okay. 00:26:19.244 --> 00:26:20.485 Jared, you're up next. 00:26:22.331 --> 00:26:23.367 Good. 00:26:28.712 --> 00:26:31.671 Military man. God bless, son. 00:26:31.924 --> 00:26:36.009 Who you are on the inside can be affected by the outside. 00:26:36.303 --> 00:26:41.014 Outside in, fake it till you make it, adapt to survive. 00:26:41.100 --> 00:26:44.684 See, that's a batting stance. That's what I'm talking about. 00:26:45.646 --> 00:26:47.057 Boom! 00:26:58.367 --> 00:27:04.034 Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, whatever that is, 00:27:04.123 --> 00:27:08.288 multisexual, intellectual-sexual, I mean, what else do you want? 00:27:08.418 --> 00:27:13.083 Unicorns? Squirrels? Cupcakes? I mean, rainbows? 00:27:13.173 --> 00:27:16.837 There's so much choice in this group. 00:27:16.927 --> 00:27:22.218 But, hey, think about this. What are the consequences to those choices? 00:27:24.643 --> 00:27:27.886 Have a look at this. Rape, abuse, AIDS. 00:27:29.231 --> 00:27:31.769 What sinful things have y'all done? 00:27:36.613 --> 00:27:38.195 Moral inventory. 00:27:39.408 --> 00:27:43.277 Catalogue your sins and ask God's forgiveness. 00:27:46.623 --> 00:27:47.739 Who's ready? 00:27:51.795 --> 00:27:52.831 Sarah! 00:28:06.685 --> 00:28:09.849 "I would look at other girls in the changing rooms before gym 00:28:10.898 --> 00:28:11.979 "and in the showers. 00:28:12.983 --> 00:28:15.691 "My biggest sin is one that I am also thankful for 00:28:15.777 --> 00:28:17.769 "because it has led me to Love in Action." 00:28:19.615 --> 00:28:21.356 Doing well, Sarah. Carry on. 00:28:25.579 --> 00:28:27.241 "I had run away from my uncle's house 00:28:28.248 --> 00:28:31.787 "and stayed with some girls I knew whose parents were away. 00:28:32.961 --> 00:28:36.375 "It was there that I finally acted on my homosexual thoughts." 00:28:39.718 --> 00:28:40.799 Come on, Sarah. 00:28:42.054 --> 00:28:43.386 "I let a girl touch my... 00:28:44.514 --> 00:28:45.630 "Kiss my... 00:28:46.475 --> 00:28:48.432 "My vagina." 00:28:50.771 --> 00:28:52.353 Nobody's judging, come on. 00:28:52.940 --> 00:28:57.059 "And put her fingers inside me and I did the same. 00:28:58.820 --> 00:29:01.654 "I renounce these sinful thoughts and actions 00:29:01.740 --> 00:29:04.153 "and ask God to forgive me all these things." 00:29:06.745 --> 00:29:07.781 Very good. 00:29:09.122 --> 00:29:10.329 We love you, Sarah. 00:29:10.666 --> 00:29:13.329 Repeat after me. We love you, Sarah. 00:29:14.002 --> 00:29:16.039 - We love you, Sarah. - Very good. 00:29:36.984 --> 00:29:39.317 - Do you want some water? - I'm fine, thanks. 00:29:41.488 --> 00:29:44.731 - Can I get you anything else? - I'm... I'm fine, thank you. 00:29:45.784 --> 00:29:48.822 How dare you humiliate a child like that! 00:29:50.038 --> 00:29:51.950 Is that what you guys do? You like that? 00:29:52.040 --> 00:29:55.249 You like doing that? You like humiliating and abusing children? 00:29:55.961 --> 00:29:58.328 - It's not easy. - What do you mean it's not easy? 00:29:58.422 --> 00:29:59.983 - Lee's parents. - His parents are here. 00:30:00.007 --> 00:30:01.276 Listen to yourself. 00:30:01.300 --> 00:30:04.043 With respect, we are not running a holiday camp here. 00:30:04.136 --> 00:30:06.879 We paid you $3,000. I should report you. 00:30:07.014 --> 00:30:09.784 - You could have given him a concussion. - David, let's go. 00:30:09.808 --> 00:30:11.674 But this change doesn't come easy. 00:30:12.227 --> 00:30:13.468 Unbelievable! 00:30:27.617 --> 00:30:30.325 Do you all find the reason y'all are here is funny? 00:30:31.038 --> 00:30:32.404 Look at y'all! 00:30:33.165 --> 00:30:34.326 People! 00:30:35.083 --> 00:30:36.619 I'm trying to help you. 00:30:36.710 --> 00:30:38.872 So, do not waste my time. 00:30:38.962 --> 00:30:42.330 Nobody is to discuss the therapy outside these walls. 00:30:42.424 --> 00:30:43.756 Do I make myself clear? 00:31:36.186 --> 00:31:37.643 Here. I got you, pal. 00:31:38.146 --> 00:31:39.762 - Oh, sorry, sorry. - I got that. 00:31:39.898 --> 00:31:41.014 Thank you so much. 00:31:41.274 --> 00:31:43.482 Which, uh... Which room you in? 00:31:43.777 --> 00:31:45.564 I'm in, uh, 317. 00:31:46.154 --> 00:31:49.113 I'm in 237. You run? 00:31:49.408 --> 00:31:50.569 - Yeah. - I figure. 00:31:50.659 --> 00:31:53.197 - People who run know about Asics, right? - Oh, yeah. 00:31:54.162 --> 00:31:55.198 Here. This is me. 00:32:05.507 --> 00:32:07.373 First one in gets to choose. 00:32:12.264 --> 00:32:13.380 You got a girl? 00:32:14.141 --> 00:32:17.760 If so, you might want to think about applying for a room without bunks. 00:32:18.186 --> 00:32:19.302 Just broke up. 00:32:20.105 --> 00:32:21.105 Oh. 00:32:21.314 --> 00:32:24.648 That's perfect timing for college. 00:32:26.319 --> 00:32:28.185 We're a good fit. 00:32:28.280 --> 00:32:29.816 Hate running with slowpokes. 00:32:30.657 --> 00:32:32.694 I tell you what, I race you on the way back. 00:32:33.410 --> 00:32:35.743 Last one back has to go to the other one's church. 00:32:35.912 --> 00:32:37.699 Why? What kind of church is it? 00:32:38.373 --> 00:32:39.489 You game or not? 00:32:40.000 --> 00:32:41.000 Okay. 00:32:41.543 --> 00:32:44.160 - One, two, three, go! - Two, three, go! 00:33:09.070 --> 00:33:11.027 - Jared. - Hey, man. Nice to meet you. 00:33:57.786 --> 00:33:59.994 You say your roommate's not back till tomorrow? 00:34:00.497 --> 00:34:02.033 He's on some golf trip. 00:34:06.586 --> 00:34:07.827 Do you want to crash? 00:34:10.757 --> 00:34:12.043 Uh, maybe. 00:34:31.820 --> 00:34:32.820 Good night. 00:34:33.947 --> 00:34:34.947 Good night. 00:35:26.708 --> 00:35:27.994 Can't sleep, huh? 00:35:43.308 --> 00:35:45.345 Probably shouldn't run so late at night. 00:36:04.829 --> 00:36:05.865 You okay? 00:36:08.583 --> 00:36:09.699 Yeah. 00:36:12.379 --> 00:36:13.540 Yeah, just... 00:37:01.136 --> 00:37:02.468 It's okay. 00:37:07.726 --> 00:37:08.726 It's okay. 00:37:27.412 --> 00:37:30.576 Hey, it's okay. It's okay. 00:37:31.833 --> 00:37:32.869 Wait, wait. 00:37:35.044 --> 00:37:36.660 No. 00:37:41.885 --> 00:37:43.525 Stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop! 00:37:56.274 --> 00:37:57.310 Ow! 00:38:13.917 --> 00:38:15.728 Come on, keep it down in there. 00:38:47.367 --> 00:38:49.487 What the hell is wrong with me? 00:38:51.162 --> 00:38:52.448 I'm so sorry. 00:38:58.127 --> 00:39:00.119 I'm going to be in so much trouble. 00:39:06.427 --> 00:39:07.838 I need to confess. 00:39:15.270 --> 00:39:17.262 I need to confess. Will you hear me? 00:39:20.483 --> 00:39:21.940 - Please. - Uh-huh. 00:39:29.075 --> 00:39:30.941 Do you remember the kid from church? 00:39:34.539 --> 00:39:35.871 The one in front of us. 00:39:40.169 --> 00:39:42.331 Something happened with me and him. 00:39:44.090 --> 00:39:45.581 Something pretty bad. 00:39:52.307 --> 00:39:54.469 You wouldn't dare tell anyone, would you? 00:39:56.644 --> 00:39:57.644 Please. 00:40:00.398 --> 00:40:01.764 Keep it between us. 00:40:26.174 --> 00:40:28.837 Start with Chapter 6, please. 00:41:31.197 --> 00:41:33.439 What a surprise. 00:41:33.741 --> 00:41:34.857 Oh! 00:41:54.053 --> 00:41:56.386 - Hello. - Is this Mrs. Nancy Eamons? 00:41:56.472 --> 00:41:57.588 This is she. 00:41:57.682 --> 00:41:59.423 I'm a counselor at Danning College. 00:42:00.351 --> 00:42:04.470 I'm afraid I have some disturbing news about your son's behavior at school. 00:42:04.564 --> 00:42:05.564 What? 00:42:05.898 --> 00:42:07.230 What about him? 00:42:08.359 --> 00:42:10.087 - Did he give you a name? - I need you to answer my question. 00:42:10.111 --> 00:42:11.880 - If he gave you a name... - Please, Jared, just answer. 00:42:11.904 --> 00:42:12.965 I'm just saying. Why wouldn't he... 00:42:12.989 --> 00:42:14.091 Have you been doing the things he said? 00:42:14.115 --> 00:42:15.968 - Why wouldn't he give you a name? - Come on, son, enough. 00:42:15.992 --> 00:42:16.992 Tell me the truth. 00:42:17.076 --> 00:42:20.695 - I'm asking questions, too. - He didn't give me a name. I don't... 00:42:20.788 --> 00:42:21.849 The guy's full of shit. 00:42:21.873 --> 00:42:23.392 - He's telling a bunch of lies. - Now, you will not talk like that 00:42:23.416 --> 00:42:24.601 in this house in front of your mother. 00:42:24.625 --> 00:42:25.706 You just watch your mouth. 00:42:25.793 --> 00:42:28.376 Nancy, if... If you could just give us a moment, you know, 00:42:28.504 --> 00:42:29.565 - just to... - I'm... I'm leaving... 00:42:29.589 --> 00:42:30.983 Sit down. You will not leave the room. 00:42:31.007 --> 00:42:32.293 You will sit down, boy. 00:42:32.884 --> 00:42:35.124 - You will sit down. - It's bullshit, Dad. It's bullshit. 00:42:35.178 --> 00:42:36.965 I just asked you to watch your mouth. 00:42:40.099 --> 00:42:42.887 I think, um, he said he was a counselor, 00:42:42.977 --> 00:42:45.060 and then... And I asked for his name 00:42:45.146 --> 00:42:46.557 - and then I asked for... - Nancy. 00:42:46.647 --> 00:42:48.125 - You see? - His number and he didn't... 00:42:48.149 --> 00:42:49.230 Nancy, please. 00:42:49.567 --> 00:42:50.683 Dad, I... 00:42:51.402 --> 00:42:52.984 He's made all of this up. 00:42:54.363 --> 00:42:55.649 Let's just sit here. 00:42:55.782 --> 00:42:58.262 - We're just going to talk calmly. - All right. All right. 00:42:59.827 --> 00:43:01.989 - No, Dad. - Jared. 00:43:06.501 --> 00:43:08.743 I just need you to tell me the truth, that's all. 00:43:09.420 --> 00:43:13.255 What this man says of you, Jared. 00:43:14.967 --> 00:43:16.253 Are you a homosexual? 00:43:20.515 --> 00:43:21.515 Jared. 00:43:22.642 --> 00:43:23.883 We are not finished. 00:43:24.018 --> 00:43:27.011 - I am, because you won't listen. - Honey. Honey. 00:43:27.522 --> 00:43:30.084 - What this man says, is it true? - What, this full-of-shit guy... 00:43:30.108 --> 00:43:31.708 - Answer me. - ...who is not a counselor, 00:43:31.818 --> 00:43:34.310 who raped a kid at his own church 00:43:35.613 --> 00:43:36.945 and God knows who else. 00:43:37.865 --> 00:43:39.322 Dad, you're hurting me. 00:43:39.700 --> 00:43:41.657 - Marshall. - His name is Henry Wallace. 00:43:41.828 --> 00:43:44.161 He's... He's not a counselor, he's a student. 00:43:44.247 --> 00:43:45.579 - All right. - And... And... 00:43:46.666 --> 00:43:47.998 He told me he did some bad things. 00:43:48.084 --> 00:43:50.076 I think he thinks I'm going to tell on him. 00:43:51.671 --> 00:43:52.752 Honey. 00:43:54.507 --> 00:43:55.543 Son. 00:44:08.104 --> 00:44:09.104 Fight! 00:44:19.157 --> 00:44:20.443 Go to war! 00:44:32.295 --> 00:44:33.831 Your mother's making dinner. 00:44:36.257 --> 00:44:37.714 I'm okay. I'm not hungry. 00:44:43.764 --> 00:44:46.427 I want you to write down this man's name, 00:44:47.185 --> 00:44:51.520 his church, phone number if you have it. Any information at all. 00:44:52.607 --> 00:44:55.350 - I don't want you to talk to him. - I ain't going to talk to him. 00:44:56.444 --> 00:44:59.482 If he's been doing what you say, then he needs to be reported. 00:45:03.409 --> 00:45:04.409 Okay. 00:45:05.953 --> 00:45:09.663 Now, you know what I did? I invited Chloe and her parents for lunch tomorrow. 00:45:09.790 --> 00:45:11.830 I was thinking it would be fun if you could join in. 00:45:12.668 --> 00:45:15.411 Missing one more day of class ain't gonna end the world. 00:45:16.631 --> 00:45:18.247 You know, Jared... 00:45:19.508 --> 00:45:21.170 ...as far as I can tell, 00:45:22.345 --> 00:45:24.587 we've only got one God-given right. 00:45:25.389 --> 00:45:28.723 And that is when a man and a woman come together. 00:45:28.809 --> 00:45:31.677 They may create life. 00:45:32.563 --> 00:45:35.727 You think how much God must love mankind 00:45:35.858 --> 00:45:38.475 - to give us that awesome responsibility. - Dad. 00:45:39.820 --> 00:45:41.982 It's really not true. 00:45:48.788 --> 00:45:51.451 You know what I think about these type of games, too. 00:45:53.084 --> 00:45:55.371 Be respectful to your mother when she calls. 00:45:56.504 --> 00:45:57.585 You come down and eat. 00:46:32.581 --> 00:46:33.581 Honey. 00:46:33.874 --> 00:46:37.083 All right. You want me to stop with the games? 00:46:37.420 --> 00:46:38.420 I'll stop with them. 00:46:38.963 --> 00:46:40.454 I broke up with Chloe 00:46:41.465 --> 00:46:42.751 because... 00:46:48.764 --> 00:46:51.006 We broke up because I think it's true 00:46:52.101 --> 00:46:53.262 about me. 00:46:55.813 --> 00:46:57.145 God help me. 00:46:59.650 --> 00:47:01.107 I think about men. 00:47:15.041 --> 00:47:16.577 I don't know why. 00:47:19.170 --> 00:47:20.411 I'm so sorry. 00:48:13.265 --> 00:48:14.676 God bless you, pastor. 00:48:19.605 --> 00:48:21.541 - Are you okay? - I've had better days, 00:48:21.565 --> 00:48:22.772 I can tell you that. 00:48:32.368 --> 00:48:34.576 - Just a minute. Just a minute. - Mom? 00:48:34.662 --> 00:48:37.120 Hold on. All right. 00:48:43.963 --> 00:48:46.125 Why are Pastor Wilkes and Jim Picard here? 00:48:46.966 --> 00:48:49.629 Pastor Wilkes has dealt with this kind of thing before. 00:48:52.555 --> 00:48:55.047 Jim has a son, Eddie, who, um... 00:48:55.141 --> 00:48:57.098 You were a little boy, but... 00:48:58.394 --> 00:48:59.475 Anyway. 00:49:00.396 --> 00:49:02.388 - What did they do to him? - Oh, no. 00:49:02.815 --> 00:49:04.852 You silly thing. 00:49:04.942 --> 00:49:06.899 They didn't do anything to him. 00:49:07.069 --> 00:49:08.935 They did things for him, 00:49:09.864 --> 00:49:10.864 all right? 00:49:12.366 --> 00:49:14.733 Just like they're gonna do things for you. 00:49:15.119 --> 00:49:17.111 Your father's wondering... 00:49:18.330 --> 00:49:20.322 He's wondering how to help. 00:49:23.586 --> 00:49:24.793 Come here. 00:49:25.212 --> 00:49:26.953 It's all gonna be all right. 00:49:30.259 --> 00:49:32.125 We've got one question for you, son, 00:49:33.053 --> 00:49:35.295 and we're gonna let you sleep. It's been a big day. 00:49:37.933 --> 00:49:40.971 I have shared our conversations 00:49:42.354 --> 00:49:45.973 with these two fine, upstanding men and I have asked them for their guidance. 00:49:48.777 --> 00:49:51.941 I can tell you right now we don't have all the answers. 00:49:52.364 --> 00:49:56.779 But I do know that you gonna hold the key to the next step. 00:49:58.204 --> 00:50:01.117 Your mother and I, we cannot see 00:50:01.916 --> 00:50:04.203 a way that you can live under this roof, 00:50:04.752 --> 00:50:07.369 attend service and work at the dealership 00:50:08.756 --> 00:50:11.965 if you're going to fundamentally go against the grain of our beliefs 00:50:13.135 --> 00:50:14.797 and against God himself. 00:50:17.556 --> 00:50:19.513 I'm gonna ask you that question now, son. 00:50:23.729 --> 00:50:25.311 In your heart, 00:50:28.692 --> 00:50:30.479 do you want to change? 00:50:51.298 --> 00:50:52.379 Yes. 00:50:53.759 --> 00:50:55.375 Yes, I want to change. 00:51:00.224 --> 00:51:01.681 Come a little closer, son. 00:51:02.393 --> 00:51:03.725 Pastor Wilkes, 00:51:04.937 --> 00:51:08.226 could you ask Jesus to shine his light 00:51:09.233 --> 00:51:10.895 on my boy at this time? 00:51:13.070 --> 00:51:16.313 Heavenly Father, I ask your blessing for this family. 00:51:16.407 --> 00:51:17.864 Give them strength. 00:51:18.659 --> 00:51:20.571 Unleash your power 00:51:21.453 --> 00:51:25.413 for one of your flock, Jared, who has lost his way. 00:51:25.791 --> 00:51:28.875 We pray, Lord, that you make him pure 00:51:29.628 --> 00:51:32.336 and that you return him safely back to us 00:51:32.423 --> 00:51:38.044 and see that the errors of his way are nothing more than a momentary straying. 00:51:39.305 --> 00:51:42.343 We pray that he see the path of faith 00:51:42.683 --> 00:51:45.892 and that he strive to be honest 00:51:46.270 --> 00:51:49.229 and that he then find the joy of a new life. 00:51:50.065 --> 00:51:51.806 In His name we pray. 00:51:52.359 --> 00:51:53.566 Amen. 00:51:54.153 --> 00:51:55.189 Jared. 00:52:01.035 --> 00:52:02.867 How's college treating ya? 00:52:03.454 --> 00:52:06.288 Uh, it's going good. Yeah. It's good. 00:52:06.790 --> 00:52:09.908 Your father's asked me to take some of your blood. 00:52:13.505 --> 00:52:15.167 He wants me to... 00:52:15.591 --> 00:52:17.958 To check for testosterone levels. 00:52:21.597 --> 00:52:25.932 I'm in a bit of a bind here, Jared, and I... I said this to your mother, too. 00:52:26.018 --> 00:52:30.228 Now, I am a religious woman, there's... There's no... No question, 00:52:30.314 --> 00:52:32.556 but I have also been to medical school, 00:52:33.567 --> 00:52:37.937 and, well, you can say that I hold science in one hand 00:52:38.030 --> 00:52:41.865 and God in the other, and that is not always an easy balance. 00:52:43.118 --> 00:52:46.782 And I know that everybody would like for me to say otherwise 00:52:46.872 --> 00:52:49.706 and send you down to the pharmacy for a... 00:52:49.792 --> 00:52:53.877 A pill that would magically fix you, but that's not gonna happen. 00:52:54.338 --> 00:52:56.204 But I'm gonna take your blood and I know... 00:52:56.298 --> 00:52:57.880 I know what it's gonna show me. 00:52:58.509 --> 00:53:02.844 That you are a perfectly normal, very healthy teenage boy. 00:53:05.057 --> 00:53:09.392 Jared, it's not my place to tell you that your parents are wrong, 00:53:09.770 --> 00:53:12.433 but let's say that they are wrong. 00:53:13.107 --> 00:53:16.851 I understand your father signed you up for a program next month. 00:53:19.029 --> 00:53:23.615 Whatever happens next, it is still your choice. 00:53:24.743 --> 00:53:26.951 It may not feel that way, but it is. 00:53:28.330 --> 00:53:29.616 You're 18. 00:53:32.626 --> 00:53:36.996 Do you have anything that you'd... You'd like to say to me? 00:53:38.382 --> 00:53:41.125 Any... Any questions? 00:53:45.139 --> 00:53:46.255 No. 00:53:51.019 --> 00:53:52.180 Jared? 00:53:53.939 --> 00:53:55.055 Morning. 00:54:05.868 --> 00:54:10.078 So, I wanted to talk to you about these. 00:54:11.582 --> 00:54:13.448 Uh, your writing. 00:54:15.169 --> 00:54:21.416 This "Remy and Lucy met at midnight under the stars on Willow Street." 00:54:23.302 --> 00:54:25.339 What... Tell me about these. 00:54:27.514 --> 00:54:29.927 It's... It's just... It's a story. 00:54:32.186 --> 00:54:35.429 It's a love story about a boy and a girl, correct? 00:54:35.564 --> 00:54:37.271 - Yeah. - But were you thinking 00:54:37.357 --> 00:54:40.475 about two boys when you wrote this? 00:54:42.362 --> 00:54:44.228 - No. - Be honest. 00:54:44.823 --> 00:54:47.031 No, it's just a story. 00:54:48.118 --> 00:54:50.360 It's just an assignment for college. 00:54:53.040 --> 00:54:55.999 Jared, I've seen your reading list for college. I have it here, 00:54:56.084 --> 00:54:59.373 and listen, The Picture of Dorian Gray, Lolita, 00:55:00.255 --> 00:55:02.121 I mean, some of these... These books, Jared, 00:55:02.216 --> 00:55:04.277 considering everything that's going on for you right now, 00:55:04.301 --> 00:55:06.112 I don't know that college is really the best thing 00:55:06.136 --> 00:55:07.752 for you to be pursuing at all. 00:55:09.473 --> 00:55:13.717 A year with us may be a much, much better use of your time, 00:55:15.979 --> 00:55:17.686 given everything that I see, 00:55:19.858 --> 00:55:21.645 and everything that's at stake. 00:55:24.363 --> 00:55:26.650 And I'm willing to say that to your parents. 00:55:29.243 --> 00:55:31.326 Listen, I've had many wonderful conversations 00:55:31.411 --> 00:55:32.902 with your parents. Lovely people. 00:55:32.996 --> 00:55:35.454 So, I know some of your story. 00:55:35.916 --> 00:55:39.535 And I know that there is quite a discrepancy 00:55:39.628 --> 00:55:43.087 between what they were told and what you said. 00:55:44.550 --> 00:55:49.045 And you gotta understand that they don't know what to believe, 00:55:49.137 --> 00:55:51.254 and that's very troubling for them. 00:55:53.350 --> 00:55:55.057 But I think that you and I know 00:55:55.143 --> 00:55:57.556 that there is a whole lot more to the story, 00:55:58.105 --> 00:56:02.349 and, you know, we're not here on mere thoughts alone. 00:56:06.738 --> 00:56:09.446 Jared, the... The people that get the most out of this place 00:56:09.533 --> 00:56:13.994 are the people that are just really brave and honest 00:56:14.079 --> 00:56:17.322 and lay everything on the table, ugly as it seems, 00:56:17.416 --> 00:56:20.159 and fess up to what God already sees. 00:56:22.880 --> 00:56:27.875 And then, I can really truly assess what is the best future for you. 00:56:31.096 --> 00:56:32.462 Okay, son? 00:56:35.684 --> 00:56:37.767 Yeah. Yeah. 00:56:41.982 --> 00:56:46.101 Dear Heavenly Father, today I ask your forgiveness for my sins. 00:56:47.613 --> 00:56:51.277 For a year, we lived together under the cover of being roommates. 00:56:51.825 --> 00:56:56.536 But in reality, the whole time I was committing the sin of sodomy. 00:56:57.623 --> 00:57:00.957 And then my family discovered the truth and brought me back to my senses. 00:57:01.376 --> 00:57:03.789 They helped me realize that I was fooling myself. 00:57:05.380 --> 00:57:07.121 That I was being fooled. 00:57:08.383 --> 00:57:12.047 That I was seduced into a life of sin by all sorts of sinful people. 00:57:13.347 --> 00:57:16.340 And I knew in my heart that I had forsaken Jesus for Satan. 00:57:17.017 --> 00:57:18.017 But now, 00:57:21.939 --> 00:57:23.646 I am awake to my sins. 00:57:24.274 --> 00:57:25.731 I'm enlightened, 00:57:26.151 --> 00:57:27.642 I'm here with all of you 00:57:27.945 --> 00:57:31.689 and I'm disgusted at the person that I once was. 00:57:34.368 --> 00:57:36.451 I want to ask God for his forgiveness, 00:57:38.288 --> 00:57:40.575 and I want to thank all of you guys, 00:57:41.041 --> 00:57:42.532 especially you, Mr. Sykes, 00:57:43.210 --> 00:57:45.793 for helping me get back on the path to righteousness. 00:57:45.963 --> 00:57:47.499 We love you, Gary. 00:57:48.298 --> 00:57:49.914 We love you, Gary. 00:58:05.565 --> 00:58:07.477 Please don't do that, honey. You know I... 00:58:07.609 --> 00:58:10.022 Mom, who did that happen to and when? 00:58:10.153 --> 00:58:12.019 Seriously. Do you know? 00:58:12.114 --> 00:58:13.980 Do you actually know who that happened to? 00:58:17.703 --> 00:58:18.944 It never happened. 00:58:24.167 --> 00:58:25.908 Parents want to protect their kids. 00:58:26.044 --> 00:58:29.162 - So they feed them lies. - I think that they're okay lies. 00:58:29.256 --> 00:58:32.044 What? Like not telling me how long I might be here for? 00:58:34.511 --> 00:58:37.299 You know the whole thing you and Dad are paying for here 00:58:37.514 --> 00:58:40.257 is all about how messed up we are by our parents. 00:58:40.642 --> 00:58:43.635 They want to know about you. That's why you can't know all about it, 00:58:43.729 --> 00:58:45.849 because then they wouldn't get their money out of you. 00:58:46.815 --> 00:58:49.057 What have I ever done to you, hmm? 00:58:49.609 --> 00:58:52.317 Talk about me all you want. My conscious is clean. 00:59:02.080 --> 00:59:03.446 Honey. 00:59:21.767 --> 00:59:23.759 I'm gonna go for a run. Is that okay, Mom? 00:59:24.811 --> 00:59:25.811 Mmm-hmm. 01:00:22.077 --> 01:00:23.193 Fuck you! 01:00:26.581 --> 01:00:27.992 Fuck you! 01:00:36.675 --> 01:00:38.132 Fuck you! 01:00:42.180 --> 01:00:44.263 Please, please give me strength. 01:00:44.349 --> 01:00:45.715 I need your help. 01:00:46.685 --> 01:00:47.685 Amen. 01:01:05.120 --> 01:01:07.737 I'm reading it. No debate. 01:01:08.540 --> 01:01:10.532 I have a right to know what they're teaching you. 01:01:11.334 --> 01:01:14.418 I don't see why anyone would read it unless you absolutely had to. 01:01:15.213 --> 01:01:16.954 I need to know what's inside. 01:01:17.966 --> 01:01:20.208 There are tons of spelling errors in it. 01:01:20.969 --> 01:01:23.177 I almost want to mark up a copy for them. 01:01:24.306 --> 01:01:26.889 But that would take away the only real enjoyment you get 01:01:26.975 --> 01:01:29.592 from reading it, because I guess it's 01:01:31.104 --> 01:01:33.221 actually not much fun to be there. 01:01:36.818 --> 01:01:40.107 And I'm starting to wonder whether it's really going to change me. 01:02:01.676 --> 01:02:05.966 "We always come back to Dog's true design." 01:02:12.145 --> 01:02:13.636 Almighty Dog. 01:02:46.805 --> 01:02:49.172 Welcome to God Versus Science... 01:02:54.396 --> 01:02:55.728 Thank you. 01:03:38.773 --> 01:03:40.264 Where are you from, Xavier? 01:03:41.484 --> 01:03:42.975 I was born in Vienna. 01:03:43.570 --> 01:03:46.984 I ended up in Canada, and now I'm here. 01:03:56.416 --> 01:03:57.827 Do you believe in God? 01:03:59.044 --> 01:04:00.251 I do, yeah. 01:04:01.921 --> 01:04:02.921 Wow. 01:04:04.674 --> 01:04:08.213 I question it, but I still believe in God, yeah. 01:04:15.268 --> 01:04:16.759 Who created the Earth? 01:04:19.147 --> 01:04:20.729 You like a little small talk, huh? 01:04:22.525 --> 01:04:24.107 Do you believe in the Devil? 01:04:29.199 --> 01:04:30.565 Did he look like me? 01:04:33.370 --> 01:04:34.702 I don't know. 01:04:51.262 --> 01:04:53.254 Do you know Job from the Bible? 01:04:54.474 --> 01:04:55.840 Not personally. 01:04:56.434 --> 01:04:59.643 I hear he's not great company. Always complaining. 01:05:04.109 --> 01:05:05.816 I imagine I'm him sometimes. 01:05:06.694 --> 01:05:10.438 And that God and the Devil are having a bet over me. 01:05:10.865 --> 01:05:13.152 That one day God will let me in 01:05:13.243 --> 01:05:16.236 on the experiment he was having to test me. 01:05:19.249 --> 01:05:21.912 I think we're our own God. 01:05:23.503 --> 01:05:25.369 I mean, I think he's in us. 01:05:26.965 --> 01:05:30.800 In all of us, not, you know, somewhere 01:05:31.177 --> 01:05:33.510 hiding and watching. 01:05:45.024 --> 01:05:46.310 Stay with me. 01:05:48.111 --> 01:05:49.522 Nothing needs to happen. 01:05:51.239 --> 01:05:52.525 I swear. 01:05:55.952 --> 01:05:58.535 I'll prove to you that God won't strike you down. 01:06:36.659 --> 01:06:38.241 You wronged me, Dad... 01:06:39.287 --> 01:06:41.324 - And I hate the way... - Louder, Cameron. 01:06:41.623 --> 01:06:45.082 Can't hear you. Come on. I'll bring him closer, there he is. 01:06:46.878 --> 01:06:50.417 You wronged me, Dad, and I hate you for the way that you treated me 01:06:50.548 --> 01:06:52.164 since you found out about my problems. 01:06:52.258 --> 01:06:53.794 No, about your sin. 01:06:54.260 --> 01:06:55.751 Say that. 01:06:55.845 --> 01:06:58.087 "About my sins." Go! 01:07:03.144 --> 01:07:05.727 "About my sins," come on, Cameron. 01:07:07.690 --> 01:07:11.183 "My homosexual sins." Come on, Cameron. 01:07:12.070 --> 01:07:13.527 - Cameron! - I can go. 01:07:14.614 --> 01:07:15.775 I don't... I don't mind... 01:07:15.865 --> 01:07:19.279 No, no, no. Jared, everybody gets a turn. This is Cameron's turn. 01:07:19.536 --> 01:07:22.950 - "About my sins!" Come on! - Found out about my sins. 01:07:25.333 --> 01:07:28.167 I hate that you never listen to me or acknowledge me. 01:07:28.294 --> 01:07:29.580 And when you do acknowledge me, 01:07:29.671 --> 01:07:31.471 it's to make fun of me in front of my friends. 01:07:31.548 --> 01:07:33.130 "It's to make fun of me." 01:07:34.133 --> 01:07:36.090 To make fun of me in front of my friends. 01:07:37.220 --> 01:07:40.804 And that time that you told me that you wished I'd never been born. 01:07:41.933 --> 01:07:43.219 That really hurt me. 01:07:48.565 --> 01:07:49.726 Cameron... 01:07:51.484 --> 01:07:55.273 Now, you say that you're angry, 01:07:56.155 --> 01:07:58.397 but quite frankly, I don't really see it. 01:07:59.701 --> 01:08:02.489 Well, what's going on in there, Cameron, huh? 01:08:04.080 --> 01:08:05.912 Do you want to change? 01:08:06.791 --> 01:08:09.249 Now you're going to wish you hadn't been born, son, 01:08:09.335 --> 01:08:13.454 because God will not love you the way that you are right now. 01:08:14.757 --> 01:08:17.215 Unless you really want to change. 01:08:18.886 --> 01:08:20.548 Well? Come on! 01:08:28.479 --> 01:08:29.936 Well, I guess not. 01:08:30.106 --> 01:08:33.099 I guess not. Okay. Let's take a break. 01:08:35.028 --> 01:08:38.487 And you are going to stay here until you are ready to go. 01:08:38.615 --> 01:08:40.902 Everybody but Cameron, take a break. 01:08:45.830 --> 01:08:48.664 I don't care if you sit there all day, son. 01:09:08.144 --> 01:09:11.103 - Is this all a game to you? - What do you mean? 01:09:12.398 --> 01:09:13.684 Listen, man. 01:09:14.275 --> 01:09:16.392 You gotta think about why you went there. 01:09:16.694 --> 01:09:19.437 You're trying to bail him out? Seriously? 01:09:19.822 --> 01:09:21.484 And touching him like that? 01:09:21.991 --> 01:09:23.823 Do you think no one saw? 01:09:23.910 --> 01:09:25.276 You saw him. 01:09:25.370 --> 01:09:28.238 He was very upset. I didn't mean anything by it. 01:09:28.331 --> 01:09:29.822 I should report you. 01:09:29.999 --> 01:09:32.912 True ownership, man. Okay. 01:09:33.002 --> 01:09:36.166 This is what moral inventory is all about. 01:09:37.006 --> 01:09:39.214 And you gotta quit staring at me all the time. 01:09:39.801 --> 01:09:42.134 These are the urges that we gotta stamp out. 01:09:42.345 --> 01:09:44.257 Okay, you gotta control this. 01:09:46.015 --> 01:09:48.348 - Do you even want this to work? - Of course I do. 01:09:49.185 --> 01:09:50.892 We're all trying to make this work. 01:09:50.978 --> 01:09:53.516 I'm having a tough time, too, just like you are. 01:09:54.190 --> 01:09:56.273 Listen, I'm fine. 01:10:03.700 --> 01:10:05.407 It doesn't seem like it. 01:10:28.182 --> 01:10:29.702 Hey, what are you doing in here alone? 01:10:29.726 --> 01:10:32.389 You're meant to attend bathroom breaks with a staff member. 01:10:38.067 --> 01:10:39.979 What? Now you don't have to pee? 01:10:44.949 --> 01:10:46.815 Or are you going to do something solo? 01:10:49.036 --> 01:10:50.743 That's why they make them rules. 01:10:53.833 --> 01:10:55.620 Not to be trusted. 01:10:56.335 --> 01:10:58.292 Not at this stage of the game. 01:11:02.508 --> 01:11:03.508 Hmm. 01:11:04.260 --> 01:11:06.126 Sounds like Morse code. 01:11:07.805 --> 01:11:09.671 Sending me a message, 01:11:10.558 --> 01:11:12.015 faggot? 01:11:58.773 --> 01:12:00.639 Starting to see it for what it is? 01:12:07.907 --> 01:12:09.114 You okay? 01:12:10.034 --> 01:12:12.367 I'm fine. I'm fine. 01:12:13.830 --> 01:12:15.617 I'm going to give you some advice. 01:12:19.460 --> 01:12:20.917 Play the part. 01:12:23.130 --> 01:12:24.587 Show them it's working. 01:12:24.799 --> 01:12:26.256 You're getting better. 01:12:29.637 --> 01:12:31.970 Fake it until you make it, right? 01:12:34.183 --> 01:12:37.722 You don't want to end up in one of those houses for any length of time. 01:12:38.771 --> 01:12:41.013 I've heard the stories and they're not good. 01:12:41.899 --> 01:12:44.107 And that's where you're likely gonna end up. 01:12:44.819 --> 01:12:46.310 Sarah's already there. 01:12:47.613 --> 01:12:49.650 So, play the part, man. 01:12:52.243 --> 01:12:55.782 And then, once you're home, you gotta figure out what to do next. 01:12:57.540 --> 01:13:01.159 If it comes down to it, you may have to walk away from everything. 01:13:03.421 --> 01:13:04.707 Everyone. 01:13:08.259 --> 01:13:09.625 Thank you for today, Michael. 01:13:10.887 --> 01:13:12.094 - See you tomorrow. - Mmm-hmm. 01:13:19.061 --> 01:13:22.475 You're gonna be on the podium any day now, so you should have a plan. 01:13:24.066 --> 01:13:26.399 Unless you really think you can change. 01:13:28.613 --> 01:13:30.855 Or even want to. 01:13:38.289 --> 01:13:39.808 I don't want to be here anymore. 01:13:39.832 --> 01:13:41.915 It's a trial. It... 01:13:42.001 --> 01:13:43.145 I don't feel good here. 01:13:43.169 --> 01:13:45.035 Nobody feels good about you being there, Jared. 01:13:45.129 --> 01:13:48.372 I don't... I don't... I'm not sure if I feel any different. 01:13:48.466 --> 01:13:52.210 Son, son, you're not even halfway through. 01:13:53.387 --> 01:13:55.240 Why didn't you tell me how long I might stay for? 01:13:55.264 --> 01:13:57.256 None of us knows the answer to that, Jared. 01:13:57.350 --> 01:13:59.453 It's kind of up to you. You know, you just gotta give it a chance. 01:13:59.477 --> 01:14:01.514 This is like the book of Matthew. 01:14:01.604 --> 01:14:03.081 The Devil's not going to ask you once, 01:14:03.105 --> 01:14:04.917 he's going to ask you over and over again, son. 01:14:04.941 --> 01:14:07.934 And you have just gotta find the strength and commitment inside you. 01:14:08.903 --> 01:14:11.236 You can get through this, okay? 01:14:12.365 --> 01:14:13.651 Okay? 01:14:14.533 --> 01:14:17.150 - All right. - It's late. Get some sleep. 01:14:17.328 --> 01:14:19.615 - Good night. - Good night. 01:14:58.119 --> 01:15:00.862 Jared? You're gonna be late. 01:15:33.237 --> 01:15:34.899 I had thoughts of men. 01:15:35.239 --> 01:15:36.775 Boys at school. 01:15:38.200 --> 01:15:39.361 At college, I... 01:15:42.455 --> 01:15:43.866 My imagination. 01:15:50.254 --> 01:15:53.213 - Hey, what's going on? - I have no idea. 01:15:58.012 --> 01:16:00.755 - Michael, what's going on? - Just grab a tie. 01:16:06.896 --> 01:16:10.480 Sadly, we are gathered here today to say farewell 01:16:11.817 --> 01:16:15.276 to our son, our friend, and our brother, 01:16:15.362 --> 01:16:16.648 Cameron Van Heusen, 01:16:16.739 --> 01:16:22.155 who by his own making last night, fell prey to Satan's wishes. 01:16:24.038 --> 01:16:25.700 Brother Van Heusen, is this 01:16:26.332 --> 01:16:27.994 what you want for your son? 01:16:29.001 --> 01:16:30.037 No. 01:16:30.252 --> 01:16:32.710 Young man, is this you? 01:16:33.881 --> 01:16:35.747 Brother Cameron, is this what you want? 01:16:36.509 --> 01:16:38.671 - No. - Both of you, come on. 01:16:41.055 --> 01:16:42.591 Bring him down here. 01:16:44.183 --> 01:16:46.536 - Let's go. - Who's gonna strike this demon down? 01:16:46.560 --> 01:16:47.846 I will. 01:16:51.107 --> 01:16:53.645 Out, you demon! Hit it! 01:16:53.734 --> 01:16:55.566 - Get out of him! - That's it. 01:16:56.028 --> 01:16:58.736 - Out! - Leave, demon! Leave! 01:18:55.856 --> 01:18:57.438 Sarah, come on! 01:19:31.267 --> 01:19:32.974 Stay with me. 01:19:37.398 --> 01:19:40.311 I'll prove to you that God won't strike you down. 01:21:14.244 --> 01:21:15.610 All right, take your seat. 01:21:15.788 --> 01:21:17.245 Welcome back, son. 01:21:18.832 --> 01:21:23.202 Now, I don't know about you all, but today, ooh, I feel invigorated. 01:21:23.754 --> 01:21:26.918 And I feel hopeful and a true sense that 01:21:27.383 --> 01:21:31.502 anything is possible today in this room. 01:21:33.138 --> 01:21:34.879 Cameron, how do you feel, son? 01:21:36.642 --> 01:21:37.883 I feel great, sir. 01:21:39.645 --> 01:21:42.388 Do you feel the true presence of God in your heart? 01:21:43.148 --> 01:21:44.148 Yes, sir. 01:21:44.358 --> 01:21:46.725 And that feels great, doesn't it? 01:21:47.361 --> 01:21:48.772 Yes, sir, it does. 01:21:49.863 --> 01:21:50.899 For sure. 01:21:55.160 --> 01:21:56.617 I'm happy for you, son. 01:21:58.956 --> 01:22:00.492 Moral inventory. 01:22:04.753 --> 01:22:07.416 Jared, you're up, son. 01:22:11.176 --> 01:22:12.212 Come on. 01:22:12.803 --> 01:22:13.964 Come on, son. 01:22:15.264 --> 01:22:16.800 All right. Michael. 01:22:28.861 --> 01:22:31.194 And when you're ready. 01:22:34.616 --> 01:22:36.198 "I had thoughts of men. 01:22:38.412 --> 01:22:39.744 "Boys at school. 01:22:41.415 --> 01:22:44.704 "On TV. On the street. In my imagination. 01:22:45.502 --> 01:22:49.337 "At college I held the hand of a boy and I stayed through the night in his bed. 01:22:52.801 --> 01:22:55.794 "For these thoughts and this action for which I felt regretful, 01:22:55.888 --> 01:22:58.048 - "I'd like to ask for God's..." - Wait. Hold on. 01:22:59.433 --> 01:23:00.549 Jared. 01:23:02.561 --> 01:23:04.723 Come on. What else? 01:23:06.523 --> 01:23:07.730 I never... 01:23:08.692 --> 01:23:11.059 I stayed through the night with a boy from college, 01:23:11.153 --> 01:23:12.644 but we never did anything more. 01:23:12.779 --> 01:23:16.068 Listen, don't even try lying to God, Jared. 01:23:16.158 --> 01:23:17.820 He already sees. 01:23:18.785 --> 01:23:20.697 So, come on. What else? 01:23:24.208 --> 01:23:27.076 I lied on my genogram. My Uncle Chris wasn't an alcoholic. 01:23:27.169 --> 01:23:29.957 Why don't you tell us about this Henry boy? 01:23:32.216 --> 01:23:33.707 That your daddy told me about. 01:23:34.343 --> 01:23:36.426 That's not... That's not fair. 01:23:36.887 --> 01:23:37.887 Why not? 01:23:38.514 --> 01:23:40.176 That's not my sin. 01:23:40.474 --> 01:23:42.636 Do you want to waste these people's time? 01:23:42.726 --> 01:23:43.762 I'm not. 01:23:43.894 --> 01:23:47.558 No, these people who got up here honestly and were brave... 01:23:47.648 --> 01:23:49.929 Well, I could make something up, I could make something up. 01:23:49.983 --> 01:23:52.475 Is that what you... Is that what you want me to do? 01:23:52.694 --> 01:23:55.687 Isn't that a sin, too? 01:23:55.781 --> 01:23:58.990 I mean, if thoughts are a sin, I ask God's forgiveness for that, 01:23:59.076 --> 01:24:01.193 but I'm not making anything up. 01:24:05.999 --> 01:24:07.535 Okay, then. Okay. 01:24:10.462 --> 01:24:11.623 Lie chair. 01:24:12.965 --> 01:24:16.925 I just want to make use of some of this anger. 01:24:19.096 --> 01:24:23.636 Uh, wait. Guys, just sit. Just stay where you are, okay? 01:24:23.725 --> 01:24:25.341 Here he is, Jared. 01:24:26.019 --> 01:24:27.601 Your father is sitting here 01:24:27.688 --> 01:24:31.557 and I want you to tell him how affected you are by him. 01:24:31.650 --> 01:24:34.438 And how angry you are. 01:24:34.528 --> 01:24:37.316 Tell him how you hate him for the things that he's... The way... 01:24:37.447 --> 01:24:40.110 - You can sit down. Sit down. - But I'm not angry. 01:24:40.200 --> 01:24:41.736 - Yeah, I know. - And he's done things 01:24:41.827 --> 01:24:43.363 - that upset me, but... - But you are. 01:24:43.495 --> 01:24:46.033 - You're angry, but you don't... - He's let me down... 01:24:46.123 --> 01:24:47.330 Why do I have to be angry? 01:24:47.457 --> 01:24:49.744 Just sit. 01:24:50.043 --> 01:24:51.625 - Sit down. - I'm not a dog. 01:24:51.753 --> 01:24:53.961 - I know. - And I don't think anyone is responsible 01:24:54.047 --> 01:24:57.256 for me, so I don't see how it's gonna help picking someone to blame or hate. 01:24:57.467 --> 01:25:01.006 If you don't hate anyone, Jared, then where is all this anger coming from? 01:25:01.096 --> 01:25:02.337 Because you're making me angry. 01:25:02.472 --> 01:25:04.429 There you go! I want you to use that! 01:25:04.516 --> 01:25:07.554 I'm not gonna pretend I hate my father. I don't hate my father. 01:25:07.644 --> 01:25:09.385 Jared, you do. 01:25:09.479 --> 01:25:12.142 You don't know me! You're all crazy! 01:25:12.232 --> 01:25:13.643 - All of you! - Hey! I didn't... 01:25:13.734 --> 01:25:15.191 Just... Jared. 01:25:15.277 --> 01:25:17.234 You're in my chair. 01:25:17.404 --> 01:25:19.566 - There you go! I hate you! - Jared! 01:25:20.490 --> 01:25:21.947 But how does that help? 01:25:22.034 --> 01:25:23.070 Jared! 01:25:34.004 --> 01:25:35.165 Jared! 01:25:35.255 --> 01:25:36.791 Who's in the front office? 01:25:42.095 --> 01:25:45.384 Jared! Son, let's talk. Son. 01:25:47.976 --> 01:25:49.717 Hey! Michael! 01:25:50.979 --> 01:25:52.390 Hey, hey! Give it to me! 01:25:54.524 --> 01:25:56.641 - I want my things and I want to go. - Jared. 01:25:57.027 --> 01:25:58.563 Michael! Hey! 01:26:00.197 --> 01:26:03.235 Hey! Michael! Get out of the room! 01:26:03.325 --> 01:26:04.566 Come here, son. 01:26:08.080 --> 01:26:09.196 Jared! 01:26:09.373 --> 01:26:13.538 Hey, listen. What you're having is a natural response, okay. 01:26:13.627 --> 01:26:15.227 Just... Just breathe. 01:26:23.887 --> 01:26:26.425 - Jared! - Hey, I just need a minute. 01:26:27.599 --> 01:26:29.761 - Just go away. - Take a minute, okay. 01:26:38.151 --> 01:26:40.108 Please pick up, Mom. 01:26:41.279 --> 01:26:42.941 - Jared? - Mom... 01:26:43.031 --> 01:26:45.990 - Jared? - I need you to come get me, please. 01:26:46.118 --> 01:26:47.553 What's the matter? What's the matter? 01:26:47.577 --> 01:26:49.193 - Please, I'm in trouble. - What... 01:26:49.329 --> 01:26:50.329 What's happened? 01:26:50.455 --> 01:26:54.165 Best thing that we can do is probably ease him back into the session. 01:26:54.459 --> 01:26:55.916 - Hey, son. - I called my mom 01:26:56.002 --> 01:26:57.163 and she's coming to get me. 01:26:57.671 --> 01:26:59.071 Listen, you gotta understand 01:26:59.214 --> 01:27:01.150 what you're going through right now is just a moment. 01:27:01.174 --> 01:27:02.915 - A moment? A moment? - Okay. 01:27:03.009 --> 01:27:04.195 And I feel exactly what you're going through. 01:27:04.219 --> 01:27:07.053 I think that you and I should just get everybody gone and we just talk. 01:27:07.180 --> 01:27:08.546 I don't want to talk. I want to go. 01:27:08.807 --> 01:27:10.890 Well, Jared, I don't want you to. 01:27:11.393 --> 01:27:12.679 I want you to stay. 01:27:12.894 --> 01:27:14.977 Well, I read the rules 01:27:15.063 --> 01:27:17.430 and none of them say you can stop me from leaving. 01:27:17.524 --> 01:27:19.669 I wouldn't. Can you just check where Brandon is, please? 01:27:19.693 --> 01:27:23.562 And if you or anyone puts their hands on me, I have witnesses. 01:27:23.655 --> 01:27:25.442 Nobody's going to put their hands on you. 01:27:25.699 --> 01:27:27.235 Why would anybody do that? 01:27:27.409 --> 01:27:28.616 Come sit. 01:27:29.077 --> 01:27:31.069 We're gonna wait for your mom, okay? 01:27:31.329 --> 01:27:33.912 Jesus, our Savior, please focus on Jared. 01:27:34.124 --> 01:27:37.208 Let him see the strength and courage that he needs. 01:27:37.294 --> 01:27:40.334 I want you to fill him right now with all the wisdom of everybody in this room 01:27:40.380 --> 01:27:43.498 to show him how much they love him and how much they care about him. 01:27:43.675 --> 01:27:44.916 - Be strong! - His journey 01:27:45.010 --> 01:27:48.549 into the fire that he's walking into and what he's willing to face. 01:27:48.638 --> 01:27:50.345 - You are a man. - May you open his eyes 01:27:50.432 --> 01:27:52.048 and see the wisdom that you have... 01:27:52.142 --> 01:27:53.349 - Jared! - Mom! 01:27:53.518 --> 01:27:55.225 - Jared, honey, what's happened? - Mom! 01:27:55.353 --> 01:27:57.206 - Hey, hey! Sit back down! - Mom, they're not letting me go! 01:27:57.230 --> 01:27:59.438 It's not that we're not letting him go. 01:27:59.608 --> 01:28:01.711 - Come on. Open this door. - Just hold on, Jared. 01:28:01.735 --> 01:28:04.193 - Mrs. Eamons, my name is Victor Sykes. - Who are you? 01:28:04.279 --> 01:28:05.520 We spoke on the telephone. 01:28:05.614 --> 01:28:07.071 I don't remember that. Open the door. 01:28:07.157 --> 01:28:08.760 Well, I spoke with your husband a couple times. 01:28:08.784 --> 01:28:11.993 Jared's just having a moment here borne out of the role-playing exercise. 01:28:12.078 --> 01:28:15.321 No, no! That's not true. Mom, tell him to open the door. 01:28:15.457 --> 01:28:18.541 - Slow down. - Enough. Open the door now, Mr. Sykes. 01:28:18.627 --> 01:28:21.620 - Can we just all... - I said open the door now! 01:28:21.713 --> 01:28:24.126 I'm gonna call the police if you don't open this door. 01:28:24.257 --> 01:28:26.235 - There is no need for that. - Slow down. Right now. 01:28:26.259 --> 01:28:27.591 Let him go! 01:28:28.595 --> 01:28:29.927 You all right, honey? 01:28:30.263 --> 01:28:31.379 Just let him go. 01:28:35.519 --> 01:28:36.976 I just... I think that... 01:28:38.647 --> 01:28:40.684 Jared, come on. 01:28:40.816 --> 01:28:44.560 I just... I think it's more important for his 01:28:44.778 --> 01:28:46.770 development right now that he... 01:28:46.863 --> 01:28:49.571 Don't even listen to him. Get in the car. Get in the car. 01:28:52.452 --> 01:28:54.239 You're gonna ruin that child. 01:28:54.371 --> 01:28:57.284 What are your actual qualifications, Mr. Sykes? 01:28:57.374 --> 01:28:58.910 I never asked. Hmm? 01:28:59.668 --> 01:29:02.627 Are you a doctor? Are you? Psychologist? 01:29:02.712 --> 01:29:04.829 I mean, a proper one? Are you? 01:29:06.800 --> 01:29:07.881 No. 01:29:08.802 --> 01:29:10.213 I didn't think so. 01:29:13.223 --> 01:29:14.634 Shame on you! 01:29:16.393 --> 01:29:18.055 Shame on me, too. 01:29:18.144 --> 01:29:20.056 Shame on you! 01:29:48.133 --> 01:29:49.465 Can I help you? 01:29:49.593 --> 01:29:51.755 Uh, I'm not sure if I'm staying or going. 01:29:51.845 --> 01:29:53.381 All right. Well, let me know. 01:30:05.108 --> 01:30:06.849 I talked to your father. 01:30:08.528 --> 01:30:10.064 He wants you to go back. 01:30:17.704 --> 01:30:21.744 I told him we'll see him at home. I told him you're not going back. 01:30:25.879 --> 01:30:27.290 You know that night 01:30:28.882 --> 01:30:31.545 when Pastor Wilkes and Jim came to the house? 01:30:33.178 --> 01:30:36.421 Those men decided what to do with you and I just... 01:30:37.140 --> 01:30:40.554 I fell into line, like I usually do. 01:30:43.396 --> 01:30:46.104 They say sometimes you gotta hurt a child in order to help them 01:30:46.191 --> 01:30:48.023 and that may be so with some things, 01:30:49.110 --> 01:30:51.944 but a mother knows when something isn't right. 01:30:52.989 --> 01:30:55.606 And I knew in my bones 01:30:56.618 --> 01:30:58.484 this wasn't hurting to help. 01:31:01.122 --> 01:31:05.332 I was just letting you down and I kept my mouth shut. 01:31:09.422 --> 01:31:12.290 And I will always regret that. 01:31:16.179 --> 01:31:18.341 But I can do a different thing now. 01:31:18.682 --> 01:31:20.639 Now that I have a chance. 01:31:26.106 --> 01:31:27.972 I'll handle your father. 01:31:30.026 --> 01:31:32.985 He can fall into line with me for a change. 01:31:39.452 --> 01:31:43.287 Some folk, they don't go to church for the right reasons. 01:31:47.794 --> 01:31:51.037 Now, you know the type of person I'm talking about. 01:31:54.134 --> 01:31:55.341 They just turn up. 01:32:00.515 --> 01:32:04.099 They don't use every day of their Christian life 01:32:06.354 --> 01:32:09.893 to praise the Lord and help bring others to His word. 01:32:11.484 --> 01:32:14.272 It might be your neighbor, might be your friend, 01:32:14.529 --> 01:32:17.112 it might be just a face you only ever see at church. 01:32:17.615 --> 01:32:18.856 They just turn up. 01:32:19.826 --> 01:32:21.943 I will tell something that I know. 01:32:22.162 --> 01:32:25.746 Just turning up to church does not make you a Christian. 01:32:25.874 --> 01:32:27.274 Yes, sir. Amen. 01:32:27.959 --> 01:32:30.793 Study the Bible. Study His word. 01:32:31.379 --> 01:32:32.790 I can guarantee you, 01:32:33.798 --> 01:32:35.505 every question you have, 01:32:37.218 --> 01:32:41.337 you gonna find an answer in this book. 01:32:41.848 --> 01:32:42.964 Amen. 01:32:52.275 --> 01:32:57.771 Honey, um, do you know a boy, Cameron Van Heusen? 01:32:59.365 --> 01:33:01.072 Yeah. Is he here? 01:33:01.576 --> 01:33:03.659 No. No, no. That's the police. 01:33:05.163 --> 01:33:10.033 Apparently, this boy Cameron killed himself last night. 01:33:19.761 --> 01:33:21.878 They want to ask you some questions. 01:34:58.276 --> 01:35:00.063 - Hey! How you doing? - Good. 01:35:00.153 --> 01:35:02.190 Nice to see you! I'm good. 01:35:04.073 --> 01:35:05.073 I'm good. Here. 01:35:05.158 --> 01:35:07.491 Yeah, I think they're in the dishwasher. 01:35:08.119 --> 01:35:10.532 Come on, Chris. Join us. 01:35:11.122 --> 01:35:12.329 Get out of the kitchen. 01:35:22.675 --> 01:35:24.166 I didn't even feel it. 01:36:29.867 --> 01:36:30.867 Mom... 01:36:30.952 --> 01:36:33.535 I gave it to him, he has it, and he'll read it. 01:36:33.997 --> 01:36:35.204 He knows he has to. 01:36:36.207 --> 01:36:39.917 Mom, it's important he reads it, can you just put him on? 01:36:40.962 --> 01:36:43.750 I'm calling you from Little Rock, I'm with Aunt Mary, so... 01:36:43.840 --> 01:36:45.672 Wait. Why? 01:36:46.426 --> 01:36:48.258 You should just call him at home. 01:36:49.012 --> 01:36:50.012 What happened? 01:36:50.722 --> 01:36:53.931 Nothing, she just needed some help with the shop, so I came down here, 01:36:54.017 --> 01:36:55.804 and I'm driving back tonight, I'm... 01:36:56.811 --> 01:36:58.268 I mean, nothing. Nothing is wrong. 01:37:28.301 --> 01:37:30.133 Seriously, nothing is wrong. 01:37:30.636 --> 01:37:32.673 Why didn't you tell me you were coming? 01:37:33.556 --> 01:37:34.637 Is he here? 01:37:35.183 --> 01:37:36.299 He left. 01:37:37.268 --> 01:37:40.306 It is Sunday, if it's urgent, you're gonna have to go to church. 01:37:42.065 --> 01:37:43.146 Why aren't you there? 01:37:43.775 --> 01:37:45.232 Why aren't you at church? 01:37:48.321 --> 01:37:52.235 I go, sometimes. I support your dad and... 01:37:52.950 --> 01:37:55.033 Mom, what's going on with you two? 01:37:58.247 --> 01:37:59.454 Jared, it's... 01:38:00.583 --> 01:38:01.664 He knows. 01:38:02.251 --> 01:38:03.833 I can't be around the... 01:38:07.548 --> 01:38:11.007 I love God, God loves me. 01:38:13.888 --> 01:38:15.424 And I love my son. 01:38:16.307 --> 01:38:17.673 That simple. 01:38:19.394 --> 01:38:21.727 For your father, it's a little more complicated. 01:38:23.481 --> 01:38:25.143 I wish it wasn't, but it is. 01:39:02.270 --> 01:39:05.638 Did you hear about the article I've got coming out in the Times? 01:39:07.942 --> 01:39:09.274 Do you know what it's about? 01:39:09.652 --> 01:39:11.359 I won't get into a fight. 01:39:12.738 --> 01:39:13.945 Your mother told me, son. 01:39:14.031 --> 01:39:15.112 It's not a fight. 01:39:15.533 --> 01:39:18.776 I'm just doing the right thing. I'm letting you know. 01:39:21.330 --> 01:39:22.446 I've written more, 01:39:22.540 --> 01:39:25.658 and the publishers are talking about me putting together a whole book. 01:39:27.879 --> 01:39:30.041 You don't need to read any of it. 01:39:31.632 --> 01:39:34.420 I just needed you to know that it might be out there. 01:39:34.510 --> 01:39:35.671 Well, 01:39:37.054 --> 01:39:38.135 now I know. 01:39:38.222 --> 01:39:40.384 But it might be good for you to read. 01:39:41.309 --> 01:39:45.303 Because you never really asked what went on there. 01:39:46.230 --> 01:39:49.064 You never really knew the staff or... 01:39:49.150 --> 01:39:50.357 - You're right. - Or... 01:39:50.443 --> 01:39:51.443 You're right. 01:39:52.153 --> 01:39:57.023 When the situation came up, I did what I've often done in my life. 01:39:58.743 --> 01:40:00.985 I sought the counsel of wiser men 01:40:02.371 --> 01:40:03.737 and I followed their advice. 01:40:05.082 --> 01:40:06.368 What would you do now? 01:40:07.585 --> 01:40:08.951 Now that you are running things? 01:40:09.086 --> 01:40:10.293 Enough. 01:40:14.675 --> 01:40:15.675 Good night. 01:40:46.082 --> 01:40:47.539 For me. 01:41:39.844 --> 01:41:41.196 Is there something you need help with? 01:41:41.220 --> 01:41:43.132 Because you know I gotta make my flight. 01:41:43.222 --> 01:41:45.214 Yeah, now, this was going to be for Christmas. 01:41:45.808 --> 01:41:48.266 But, uh, you know, your mother tells me 01:41:48.352 --> 01:41:50.435 you like to drive upstate sometimes to write. 01:41:50.605 --> 01:41:52.688 Dad, I live in New York. I don't need a car. 01:41:53.983 --> 01:41:57.818 She also tells me you like to write by hand 01:41:57.903 --> 01:41:59.360 before you use your computer. 01:42:00.489 --> 01:42:01.489 Just like me. 01:42:03.284 --> 01:42:08.279 This pen is made from a cedar tree grown in Israel. 01:42:10.750 --> 01:42:11.911 Guided me. 01:42:12.543 --> 01:42:15.081 I've written every sermon that I have ever delivered 01:42:15.171 --> 01:42:17.709 in this new church with this pen. 01:42:21.302 --> 01:42:22.543 One writer to another. 01:42:35.441 --> 01:42:36.977 I don't want to pretend anymore. 01:42:40.071 --> 01:42:41.812 We don't need to spend time together. 01:42:42.698 --> 01:42:43.734 We don't need to speak 01:42:43.824 --> 01:42:46.157 unless we're going to talk to each other properly. 01:42:47.078 --> 01:42:48.078 Like... 01:42:48.287 --> 01:42:51.871 You've done some things that have really hurt me. 01:42:53.376 --> 01:42:58.167 Like you never asked if there was more to my story at college. 01:43:00.466 --> 01:43:02.458 You never asked if I was okay. 01:43:04.095 --> 01:43:06.633 You were too focused on how it affected you. 01:43:10.518 --> 01:43:14.683 There's so many things that we've never spoken about. 01:43:15.898 --> 01:43:17.560 And I don't know if we ever will. 01:43:18.526 --> 01:43:19.526 Yeah. 01:43:26.784 --> 01:43:28.741 You know, all this was going to be yours. 01:43:29.954 --> 01:43:35.074 I mean, it still will be, but I meant to run and to make a living from. 01:43:38.921 --> 01:43:40.082 I understand. 01:43:41.382 --> 01:43:42.839 We all got our own paths. 01:43:45.052 --> 01:43:49.137 The truth is I want you to do well. 01:43:50.433 --> 01:43:52.345 I want you to have a great life. 01:43:53.102 --> 01:43:54.102 I love you. 01:43:56.188 --> 01:43:57.975 But I can't pretend either. 01:43:59.442 --> 01:44:01.229 There are things I disagree with. 01:44:02.528 --> 01:44:05.441 And I'll admit, I'll be honest, I'm, you know... 01:44:05.531 --> 01:44:10.026 I am being prideful when I resent the fact that I may never be a grandparent. 01:44:10.119 --> 01:44:11.610 Now, that's just the truth. 01:44:12.496 --> 01:44:15.113 It's hard for me to admit that I have hurt you. 01:44:17.168 --> 01:44:20.457 And that with my beliefs and with all that's gone on, 01:44:20.546 --> 01:44:23.960 I understand I may have set myself up to lose you. 01:44:25.092 --> 01:44:30.679 And I've had to ask myself and God if I'm ready for that. 01:44:38.481 --> 01:44:41.724 I do not want to lose you. 01:44:42.735 --> 01:44:44.317 Well, it doesn't feel like that. 01:44:45.154 --> 01:44:48.898 I'm sick of avoiding you. I'm sick of talking about nothing. 01:44:49.366 --> 01:44:50.652 I'm sick of it. 01:44:51.702 --> 01:44:54.035 I'm gay and I'm your son. 01:44:55.289 --> 01:44:57.576 And neither of those things are going to change. 01:44:58.375 --> 01:45:00.287 Okay, so let's deal with that. 01:45:00.377 --> 01:45:01.959 Or let's call it a day. 01:45:03.005 --> 01:45:06.840 Both of us would be okay, but that would be a shame. 01:45:11.096 --> 01:45:13.133 I'm not changing. There's no changing me. 01:45:15.184 --> 01:45:16.425 God knows I tried. 01:45:17.770 --> 01:45:19.261 So, if you mean it, 01:45:20.356 --> 01:45:21.597 if you really mean that, 01:45:24.693 --> 01:45:26.229 and you're not ready to lose me, 01:45:29.490 --> 01:45:32.528 then I'm sorry, but you're going to have to be the one to change. 01:45:34.620 --> 01:45:35.952 I understand. 01:45:39.166 --> 01:45:40.327 I am going to try. 01:45:47.174 --> 01:45:48.290 I'll try. 01:45:50.928 --> 01:45:52.260 I gotta get going. 01:46:18.414 --> 01:46:19.530 Dad, 01:46:20.374 --> 01:46:23.037 I've invited Mom to my place for Christmas. 01:46:23.335 --> 01:46:24.335 Yeah. 01:46:26.505 --> 01:46:27.996 You're welcome to come, too.